I underestimated OW hold on him during PA fog. Wrong move and we had many lean months because of me believing he would never spend our money on ow let alone short our bills to pay hers! But it happened for 3 months.
Think of it like this......If they can influence these men enough to leave their families and be happy NOT raising their children I believe finances are not very far behind. Please PLEASE protect what is yours and most definitely what is your Ds.
We all just want you and D to be okay financially.
Rain (moi): 40 Ex Fiance: 39 3 kids On/off again EA & PA Last BD by ow 12/15 Moved kids and myself back into our own place: 12/15
I'm glad you're chiming in, Rain. My eyes popped out of my head when I saw gmum innocently supposing OW has little influence.
Ha! These women are not normal. They are not nice. They are out for what they can get, and that most definitely included money. They are users of the worst order.
You are too sweet, Gmum. I'm older than you...I know that of which I speak. Protect yourself and D, pretty pretty please?
I really don't think she's after money. She has her own business and owns a house. She's probably better off than us. But I guess my H is worried that now he'll need plane tickets to see his D and plane tickets to see his girlfriend. That could get expensive, haha.
But as I mentioned, my friend has given me some advice, another perspective to look at things and through those glasses I won't let him intimidate to lessen the child support I'm entitled to. I did already speak to a lawyer, maybe I will again. I also downloaded a lot of bank statements, in case I'll need them. Sad it has come to this.
Fo, I didn't sign the lease, my ex did. That was the problem, without his signature I wouldn't be able to get a place. The plan is D and I will move in, then after I get my citizenship, D and I will be shipped overseas and he can move in.
That said - my "boundary" keeps moving. When DB first happened, I would say stuff like "But H would never xyz", then xyz happened. "Ok, but H would NEVER xyz" And then xyz happened. So it's true what they say, you don't really know someone till you've inherited with them or you're divorcing them.
Gmum, when will you get your citizenship? I think you need to take a road trip before you leave! We could probably put together an awesome trip with stops along the way to visit all the DB'ers.
OMG, I just had a great idea for a book. Journey across the broken heartland- a photo journal book with stops all across the US documenting all of us DB'ers and are stories, our GAL activities, and then a good follow up with each of us a year later with our "new" lives- it could be a combination self-help, motivational, travel book. A chapter on each of us.
