I hear you G. Very doable. I wish I tried when we lived together. I wouldn't have chased for so long probably.
Looking at you latest posts and thinking about your responses. They are very intelligent. I think a lot of people here would love for their wives to say the things yours did. But what would happen? A little time goes by and maybe you would be the one leaving or her again. A lot of icing to be done there and she doesn't seem willing yet.
Great job on taking care of you and ensuring a better future.
M 37 W 34
T 12 M 8 D 7 S 4
Need break 4/12/15 W no ring 7/7/15
Separate room 4/12/15 Separate living suggested 8/15 W moved out 11/1/15
Thanks otw. That's all we can do is take care of ourselves and our children. Moving forward and if our WW are able to catch up, great. If not we can't wait for them
Me 40 WW 41 D 4 S 12 S 14 BD 6.16.2015 W stopped wearing ring 9.4.15 W Filed Divorce 9.14.15 My ring off 11.15.15 D finalized 12.18.15 WXW (wayward X wife) moved out 1.28.16 got her own place
still on my No contact route. Quick one two word responses when W texts about something regarding kids. No verbal talks.
Me and kids had a good few days together. They really are so intelligent and a true blessing. Yes they can be a handful and for some reason dont hear things i say until the third time! But I actually am so grounded because of them. Just found myself laughing hard with them at dinner last night. We went to a mexican restaurant and they were asking me how to say everything and anything in spanish. Then they started pointing out words and asking what they mean so I just started making stuff up. they were dying laughing.
Going to take them to a campground when we are back together this weekend. We go there a lot and used to as a family but during the in house separation, it was really me and the kids having a blast there together so we will keep going.
Have a couple days to catch on house cleaning, and look into doing some things for myself. I have a nice list to take care of.
I know a lot of people here talk about facebook and how it is tough to have, well i never had one before. So i decided to sign up. I of course immediately got W as a suggestion and deleted that one! LOL. I am enjoying the catch up with people i havent thought about in a while. fairly interesting.
Did think about W a bit this morning, but I was able to redirect thoughts fairly quickly.
Anyway all for now.
M 37 W 34
T 12 M 8 D 7 S 4
Need break 4/12/15 W no ring 7/7/15
Separate room 4/12/15 Separate living suggested 8/15 W moved out 11/1/15
Well my no contact was broken! She tricked me! Lol
I was face timing with kids and all Of the sudden she had the phone telling me about some music lessons she looked into for the kids and trying to make sure I was ok with it. I listened and tried to look at her but really didn't want to. I told her it sounded great and just let me know then back to he kids.
I feel this could have been emailed but whatever. Back on my no contact January!
M 37 W 34
T 12 M 8 D 7 S 4
Need break 4/12/15 W no ring 7/7/15
Separate room 4/12/15 Separate living suggested 8/15 W moved out 11/1/15
otw, sounds like you are really doing well. Keep being awesome. Do you feel you are getting the desired results with your NC strategy? If you are how would you know?
Me 40 WW 41 D 4 S 12 S 14 BD 6.16.2015 W stopped wearing ring 9.4.15 W Filed Divorce 9.14.15 My ring off 11.15.15 D finalized 12.18.15 WXW (wayward X wife) moved out 1.28.16 got her own place
Not much on the front of the W to discuss. I have stuck to my no contact fairly well. She has snuck in a few questions to me that i responded with one or two word answers. Seems she has stuck to my method of communication necessary kids stuff through email. S4 bday is in 2 weeks and we had to coordinate a party. I was picking kids up one day and she said i heard S4 say he wants to do his party at xx place. I said yes, I was going to call this week. She looked at me puzzled and said call for what? I said to see availability. I am not sure why she asked like she did, maybe because she usually did that sort of thing or actually i really dont know.
Anyway I took care of the set up and emailed her. She took on the invitations and communicated to me through email about.
I have actually really started coming out of my shell a bit when I am out with friends. I have typically been a very social person around people i know, but i can also be considered quiet. I have had a history of people interpreting this quietness as rude or stuck up. I wish people knew what really goes on in the head of an actual introvert!
So i have stepped out and been more social. I have had a lot of response from females actually. The initial contact is very nice but then if they want to maybe take things further to hang out one on one I find myself stopping or feeling that I am crossing a line that i am not ready to. Maybe it is just not letting go of hope enough yet but things are slowly coming around.
I must admit immediately after BD when wife was telling me all of her reasons we were not right for each other and I was scrambling for ways to prove her wrong, i took up dance lessons. W has danced her entire life and teaches, she said this is something she wanted to focus on in her life. Which she actually hasnt but that is another story. Anyway after I realized things were not progressing and recognized I was just doing it for her I stopped going. I have decided I am going again. I like the idea of knowing what I am doing on the dance floor and now going for myself. I think it is a huge step for me.
Last few things is I noticed I have been very low on patience when dealing with the kids the last week. I recognized this and I am making a conscious effort to fix this. Yes they are kids and need to be set straight, but i can do a better job. Sometimes I forget how hard this has to be on them. I could see my daughter visibly upset last night while we were facetiming. I could hear W in the background just spewing on them and I said to myself, that will not be me.
The of course last night I had dreams flooded with W for some reason. One was awful and I woke up, then the next was more pleasant. No matter how much i try to block her she finds a way to creep in!
that is all for now.
M 37 W 34
T 12 M 8 D 7 S 4
Need break 4/12/15 W no ring 7/7/15
Separate room 4/12/15 Separate living suggested 8/15 W moved out 11/1/15
It's hard to push them out of our minds, isn't it? I'm glad I don't have her invading my dreams. But yesterday a work colleague who doesn't know what's going on said she actually had a dream about us. Something silly. I was glad her office doesn't know what's going on.
Today I am really going to focus on NOT thinking about her all day.
11/4/15 W revealed EA/2 months later became PA with co-worker Reconciling since late April 2016 Don't give up until it's time, then move on Be patient, strong and kind but never a doormat
