Seriously though, do some GAL. Even if you're scared or feel like you're not ready. Do it anyway. Go through the motions if you have to but do something. ... It was when she saw that I could move on just fine without her that made her realize she didn't want to lose me.
That sure sounds like good advice, and it's great hearing that it worked for you. Thanks.
I'm quick to warn that it may not work for everyone. Sometimes a relationship is just over. What I am saying is that it's your best chance at saving it and, if it turns out it can't be saved, then at least you're well on the way to recovery and a great new life. That's why I call it a no-lose scenario.
Edit - Please start a new thread - Cadet
Last edited by Cadet; 12/30/1508:31 PM. Reason: message
Happy New Year. Though I guess it is debatable on how how "happy" it actually is, or will be.
Anyhow, thanks, TxHubby. I truly believe this marriage is not over-- his words may be all over the place, but his actions are not. But I am in a place where if he does leave, that it will be his loss.
He has left for his New Year Day party--seriously, do I look like I was born last night?? Who has those?? And I will not be here waiting for him when he returns. Idk where I will be, but it will not be in this apartment, waiting.
Me 47 H 49 S18 S15 M 21 BD #1 11/09/15 ILYBNILY I believe we are Piecing 1/2/16 Suspect EA/PA? 2/28/16 BD #2 "He tried, but needs passion." 2/28/16 Confirm PA 3/11/16, he's leaving in June H leaves 5/7/16
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
Me 47 H 49 S18 S15 M 21 BD #1 11/09/15 ILYBNILY I believe we are Piecing 1/2/16 Suspect EA/PA? 2/28/16 BD #2 "He tried, but needs passion." 2/28/16 Confirm PA 3/11/16, he's leaving in June H leaves 5/7/16
Do you remember how you created this one? Well, if you don't here's what you do:
Go to the first page of this form. On the left hand side, just above where the threads are listed and you will see a box that says "New Topic" in red letters. Click on that box and you can then post a new subject line and begin posting in the "Post" box.
Once you've done that, since you aren't familiar w/linking your threads, I'll do it this time for you and will also provide you with instructions on to link in the future.
Trust me, if you created your first thread here, you've got this covered because it's the same steps that you used then.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
Me 47 H 49 S18 S15 M 21 BD #1 11/09/15 ILYBNILY I believe we are Piecing 1/2/16 Suspect EA/PA? 2/28/16 BD #2 "He tried, but needs passion." 2/28/16 Confirm PA 3/11/16, he's leaving in June H leaves 5/7/16
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
