Church was great this morning, I always feel so much better after kneeling at the alter. S4 sang in church this morning with the rest of the preschoolers and it was the cutest thing ever!
I was finally brave enough to hang out on the playground after church to talk to the other parents my age. It felt really good to be included with this new circle of people. We always just exchanged hellos in the past but today we sat on the picnic table and chatted for 45 minutes.
I truly believe now that there are better days waiting there for me. My life is actually pretty damn amazing right now (even with all the D crap) and I can't wait to find the man I meant to share it with. (doesn't mean I am ready to date)
Happy Sunday, DB'ers!
Me:33 H:36 T:13 years M:10 years S4 Separated 05/15 H Filed 06/15
Watched Mrs. Doubtfire today with S4 - that movie hit me so hard this time. The pain from the Dad being blindsided and then not having his kids. The Wife full of resentment because he was the fun one and she always had to clean up after them. When he becomes Mrs. Doubtfire and basically DB's himself right back into her heart (except she is unaware it's him) I lost it. I love how in the end the changes within himself stuck and he was a better person even if it didn't save his marriage. I just wanted to journal that this funny 90's comedy had such a different meaning this time.
Just a funny note - S4's favorite movie is Hook so we are watching it and he looks at me and says "he looks like Peter Pan". LOL so observant!
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Me:33 H:36 T:13 years M:10 years S4 Separated 05/15 H Filed 06/15
I need some help with whether I follow-up with STBXH again or leave it be and see what happens…
Two weeks ago I approached him about S4 and I leaving Tuesday night, for our trip to my Grandmother’s for Thanksgiving, instead of Wednesday morning. It is a 10 hour drive so I want to break it up into two drives. He immediately said no without thinking about it because he would be giving up an overnight stay. He was in a confrontational mood so I dropped it. The next Wednesday I asked him to reconsider letting us break up the trip and I would swap nights with him so he still had an overnight. We won’t be leaving until 8:00 at night so he would still get him all day and for dinner. He said he would think about it. So I asked him on Saturday if he had thought about it, the answer was no he had not thought about it at all.
So I have now broached the subject 3 times. How long do I let him “think” about it before asking again? Too much pressure I know the answer will be a flat ‘no’. I do need to know a little in advance to get a hotel room half way and to let my Dad and Grandmother know when we are arriving. I am trying not to let my Type A personality control how long he has to think. I am a planner and want all my ducks in a row when traveling. If I do bring it up again I am not sure how to go about it. I don’t know if I can wait until the day before to see if he brings it up, should I?
Me:33 H:36 T:13 years M:10 years S4 Separated 05/15 H Filed 06/15
This is a Maybelle or Sunny issue because I would apply a hammer to his head.
These guys are so much better than I am.
What is best for D, is that an appeal to his better nature? That you feel the journey is better broken up for her best interests and all that? Do you need his permission?
V
Last edited by Vanilla; 11/16/1511:10 PM.
Freedom is just another word for nothing left to loose. V 64, WAW
V- oh how I do love your suggestion! Just to remind you I have a son not a daughter
I did take the best interest path when talking to him because it would be easier on him. Sadly, I do need his permission since I am wanting to leave a day before my actual time starts. Shi$$y but he would have to give up the Tuesday overnight. Remember how hard it was to actually get him to agree on a parenting plan in the first place?
Me:33 H:36 T:13 years M:10 years S4 Separated 05/15 H Filed 06/15
Ep, I know it's this damn predictive stuff, replaces stuff all the time, especially single letters! A Though I did compound with a her, so brain not engaged I guess.
I did once manage to give Wonka a sex change and Edz cat.
Apologies to S.
I do remember the parent plan issue, absolutely. Could you offer two nights as compensations? Add the sugar to the medicine?
V
Last edited by Vanilla; 11/17/1512:09 AM.
Freedom is just another word for nothing left to loose. V 64, WAW
No worries V - as many people as you help on the board I can't expect you to remember every detail. I love your comments and advice You do have me laughing so hard at Wonka's sex change and Edz's cat. Yikes!
Me:33 H:36 T:13 years M:10 years S4 Separated 05/15 H Filed 06/15
