40s 2teens M14Y BD-10/12/13 rec-1/14 BD2-5/14 rec2-9/14 EA disc-10/14 4/15-BD 3 and triangulation ensues Served with D6/15 MS forced to leave7/15 D agreement signed 8/16 final 5/17
I think I found my lawyer today for my criminal case. I've made so many phone calls, and this one really was compassionate and encouraging. Turns out he and his partner both used to work for the DA's office. He also has a lot of experience with mental health cases. He was careful not to promise anything, but thought with everything considered, the case stands a good chance of being dismissed. I made the phone calls tonight to family begging for money - absolutely not fun, but looks like I'll get all I need for the attorney.
Take that, H! The recording I made of his blackmail attempt is going to be useful in both cases. H is the only person who thinks he's awesome. Everyone I've talked to has been disgusted by his behavior.
My D lawyer says the extortion attempt, along with the affairs, is going to really harm him as far as marital misconduct is concerned. I also alerted my brothers and male cousins to the way he's treating me and the name calling. To say they were unamused is an understatement. I have a feeling he's going to hear some things he won't like. I've been protecting him, but no longer.
I'm glad to hear that you have a supporting family, Ancaire. You certainly could use them to lean on through this. Also, it's great news to have experienced attorney/attorney in your corner. Protect yourself, and get some rest.
You are an awesome person, big sis. Never forget it!
Wishing you the best
35 3 boys Not my circus, not my monkeys anymore....
You seem better. I was worried about you. You now have money, muscle and lawyers. Legal justice and street justice just what a bully deserves. Good work today.
Thanks, guys. I was getting worried, too. I found lots of good stuff in Jelly's old threads that have helped me get focused and feel more in control. I've ordered some books and worksheets, since I am determined to take as mindful an approach as I am able in defeating this monster (depression.) I'm going to learn all I can and put it into practice. I really want to get to the point that every day is a gift waiting to be opened, rather than another day I dread having to get through. I've been dreading life for years. It's time to do something different.
I really liked the last attorney I talked to. He really made me feel safe. Promised me he would fight for me as if I were his little sister. He said he really felt like it was meant for him to help me, and he knocked several thousand off his fee to help. I've got a good feeling, but need to not get my hopes up too high. Whatever happens, I will deal with it.
Thank you for posting on my thread, trauma keeps coming, so I value the support.
I am glad that you are getting support from Jellyb, she is remarkable and has come a long way in the last twelve months. My notes show that I felt Jellyb was poorly nutritionally and her own overwhelm meant that her depression was masked. Jellyb expressed concern that her sadness was abusive. It is sadness and such is deep.
When you recorded WH and his blackmail threats your self preservation instincts came into being, so the survival instinct is strong. I am fairly sure the case will be dismissed with this. Locking your door is a good move indeed.
Is there any way you can get WH to leave so you can keep the house, any chance of an OOP against him? Saying you should kill yourself and behaving the way he does is intimidation. My WH does the same thing and it's very distressing, he says he thinks I should die, and he even said that I deserved it for the way I have treated him.
Take extreme care of your health, physically this is very important and nutrition is vital to your recovery. Epigenetics may be triggering your depression, especially sugar overload can switch certain genes on including those for depression. Hyper nutrition can switch them off again, it may take a few months and your hormonal flooding can stop. Your genetic predisposition may not be your destiny. This deep trauma can be healed from the physiology upwards.
Standing for Anc is the most important thing and will give you back your power.
Be safe, be very safe, words can get under your skin, there will be days you are strong and days you feel miserable. And that is ok.
It truly is ok.
Hugs
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Freedom is just another word for nothing left to loose. V 64, WAW
Today is our 21st anniversary. I expected to be bawling. So far, not a tear. One of my daughters is coming over today to hang out. I just feel numb. It's possible I'm just overloaded with all that's going on. I'm just pleased I'm not a puddle of despair.
so it is YOUR anniversary...what can you do to celebrate. What can you do to go out with your D and celebrate the good memories and legacy (you have 5 wonderful children, right) of that union?
go for a massage, dinner, dancing, something...anything. have a good time despite it all.
