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Yes your situation has moved fast and so did you. Taking on career training so quickly amidst This emotional roller coaster is pretty amazing. I hope you give yourself lots of credit. My situation is quite opposite as it is moving snails pace. I read your posts and there is constant change and action. I reread mine and recognize that it's pretty stagnant. This might be better for you, as limbo land is an awful place to be. You are moving on and making some very impressive changes,

I understand your anger, but sometimes anger is great energy and It sounds like your anger really helped drive you. Use it.

Good luck with your training. I think that your medical history will help you to empathize with and perhaps offer some comfort to patients that are coming in for bloodwork. A kind word from a busy health care worker can mean so much for people undergoing testing due to health issues. Sometimes I think the best way to deal with depression and sadness is by helping others. Having some financial independence will change dynamics as well.


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Ancaire, sounds like you are doing very well. Stronger, healthier, and making positive changes. I am jealous that your H agreed to work on your M! Keep up the good work, it is definately worth it. I hope H has realized what he has done, and truly is ready to make amends.

Good luck! I wish you the best!


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D...H very reluctantly agreed to counseling due to pressure from kids. I don't know how committed he is to working on M, if at all. I will be fine either way. I do not want old marriage back. I want something better. I'm unconvinced he's up to the task.

However, he is a grown man. I doubt he would have gone if he were not just a tiny bit confused. Don't get jealous yet...lol

I'm still faithfully applying DB techniques. Working on myself, 180's, LRT, being the best me I can. I'm doing things that work and dropping things that don't. If it doesn't work out, I believe the journey has been worthwhile. I'd lost myself in the old M. Now I remember who I am. I want to be loved and appreciated, and won't settle for less.

I'll keep updating. Still out of town. One more intensive day of training. Who will let me stick them? I need practice...willing to travel. smile


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Ancaire, I am jealous of you too. You are making tons of moves and improvements. You are a great strong person, and a model for the rest of us. I truly mean that. Keep up the good work, and show the rest of us the way!

Good luck, and wishing you the best!


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I have news...Guess who has her National Certification for Phlebotomi?

Think I did well on the test...scored 107. Missed one answer, but got the bonus.

So, I'm now an official bloodletter!!! (Phlebotomist)

Job hunting starts Monday at the latest. Staying tonight in the hotel and relaxing.

I am so excited. You were my first stop with the news. You all helped get me here. smile


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Originally Posted By: dday
Ancaire, I am jealous of you too. You are making tons of moves and improvements. You are a great strong person, and a model for the rest of us. I truly mean that. Keep up the good work, and show the rest of us the way!

Good luck, and wishing you the best!


Wow! Thanks, D! I'll keep sharing. It helps keep me focused, too. Besides that, I'm pretty attached to my friends on this board. I am beyond blessed with the friendship and support I've found here.


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Bumping so I can brag...I'm kind of proud of me!


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Awesome news Ancaire, keep up the positive changes!


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Omg yayyyy congrats. If we lived closer I'd take you out for drinks. Huggggssss


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Good for you!


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