Hi Overcome, hopefully when he says stuff like that, you let him know you find it disrespectful and remove yourself from that conversation? There is no need for you to sit and listen to hurtful information like that.
As for dating, well of course it is up to you. But I noticed in another post you said you were struggling to get out at all just now. I think it is healthier to build up your own life to a happier place, where you have friends and activities you enjoy. Then from that place start to think about dating. JMHO though...
What goals are you working towards just now my friend?? xx
T 13 M 7 Me 48 H 46 SS 15 BD 7.14 PA D final 5.16 (H filed)
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I wish I could sit and write decent goals. But looking at your goals I'm kinda jealous. I can't even do anything out of the house. I'm so demotivated. So not in the mood to do anything.
Pulled this out of my thread to reply to you here.
It has taken several months for me to stabilize myself and be in a position to really think about what I want for me and for my kids. We are all on our own timelines, so theres nothing to be jealous about - youll get there soon enough, Im sure.
In the meantime, how about you set some goals for yourself? They dont have to be more than a few. Set what you want to do within the next week.
- spend 15 minutes a day doing something just for you - paint your nails? watch a trashy TV show? take a bath? - set a diet plan and plan meals for the next week - read one small book a day with each child before bed - go for one GAL type outing with the kids -- library? YMCA? Some local fall festival? - introduce yourself to one stranger
I have told him I don't want to talk about this with him and that it's just wrong. How could he say things like this. It blows my mind. He was getting a little bit more detailed as to things they do and I cut him off and said spare me the details. I don't need to go there. I was just asking. I have no intention of dating. If I did it'd be for wrong reasons amd just not ready to go there.
Finding a women's gym and setting up a diet plan. Is my new goal for the next week.
Me 34 H 33 Married 2006 S5 D2 BD Jan 2015 EA/PA He moved out 2/2/2015 Came back 5/2015 Filed divorce papers 8/21/2015
Hi judy. Thanks hun for checking in. I'm ok for now. How are you? When I go to work I'm so busy with lawsuits and ins companies I don't think about him....
Me 34 H 33 Married 2006 S5 D2 BD Jan 2015 EA/PA He moved out 2/2/2015 Came back 5/2015 Filed divorce papers 8/21/2015
I am sorry he is being a pig. If his problem with you was that he wanted more sex, he could have said something to you instead of cheating. Did he ever mention this before?
