I have H in the house nearly every day. He works from home. I'm okay with that for now, but as my disappointment builds...not sure how long I can keep this up.
He's going to be one unhappy person tomorrow. I was letting him use the master bath...decided I'm done with that. He can share if he wants to be married...otherwise, he can use kid's bathroom.
I think I've got this. I'm becoming more detached every hour. Since I realized how very weak he is in character, my feelings have been less conflicted and less intense. I feel sorry for him more than anything now. I'm moving forward, and he's moving backward. He could have been great, and may be one day. But as long as he is where he is now, he'll be there without me.
You are correct. He is weak. You are strong. You deserve better. Maybe one day our Hs will see that, but maybe not. I totally understand how you feel about having to start all over at our age. How disappointing it is that they are choosing to start over instead of choosing to fight to keep their families together.
I believe in my H's case, he has refused for a long time to take care of a depression problem. I think it's difficult to admit that you are depressed. It takes great strength and courage to ask for help. So instead he blames everyone and everything else. It's too difficult to look inward. I think it's fear of what they may find.
Happy you are doing better. Keep exercising and praying.
Judy - you r not starting with nothing u have your beautiful children!!!! That is my comfort all 5 of my children know my commitment and love and loyalty and they love and respect me for that. Their dad ? Not so much.
Gr8ful - I think that may be the case with my H too, but because he masks it so well (always the up party guy) not even he would consider that he is depressed
My kids are under their father's spell at the moment. Just have to wait it out. I did more damage trying to tell my side. Keeping my mouth shut for now and just letting it play out.
