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We tried mediation first, that did not work out. I withdrew from mediation and hired a lawyer. That stumped her for a while, then she hired a lawyer.

Stipulations are what we do agree on from Mediation - 50 50 custody, can't take kids out of state without written permission, etc....


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Haven't worked any of that part out yet.

The stipulations are mainly child related. 50-50 custody, health insurnace coverage etc...


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Believe me, if I could stop this I would. Maybe the best I can do is slow it down.


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Heavy,

What you can do here is instruct your L to slow this train down as long as possible. If and when your W asks her L on the status and "pushes" for D again, then you can tell your L to go ahead and finalize it.

I (or rather my L) delayed things for as long as almost 4 years. That is until Ms. Wonka pushed for it to be done then I finally said to myself, "okay...let's get it done with here."

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Heavy,

Bringing this over from the other thread:

Originally Posted By: HeavyD
Thanks Wonka

Now soccer season is starting up. I enrolled both kids as I thought it would be healthy and also give us some bonding time. Do you feel it's ok to ask W to join along- of course I want it to just be a family activity, but I can't very well say don't bring anyone. Right?

First practice is Saturday and the next Saturday as well.

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W - S10 and D6 and I are going to attend the first scrimmage for soccer on Saturday. We'll be there at 10 at the XX park if you want to join us.

Take care - Heavy


I think the text is good. It is short and to the point while leaving it open for W to join if she chooses to do so.

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OK text sent


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And the reply was "Urgh for this weekend. I'm slammed".

That means outof town with AP. what else does I'm slammed over the weekend mean?

I don't think I will reply. Right?


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Peering into your eyes

What do we say about mind-reading around here?

Zero expectations. No, it doesn't require a response.

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Jeez Wonka

Of course that is why she won't attend. Soccer practice with kids or getting it on with AP. Easy choice. So want to respond with something negative. But I wont!

But, nothing I can do about it.

The show goes on!


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Oh that's right...you have a video camera at W's AND OW's place.

It isn't helping at all. Just so you know, it isn't always about the OW/OM. It could be her work schedule is having an impact on her or trying to juggle her own GAL activities.

When W has the kids, you have your own life with your own GAL activities such as MeetUps, etc.

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