Believer or not, I think it is an uplifting thought to know that Jesus knows how we feel.
Here is a special prayer I’d like to share with all of my friends. I hope it gives you encouragement and strength!
“Jesus, You know my pain. You were pierced by rejection and shame. You are God. Shine Your light in my darkness and show me the way out. Amen.”
Bob, a beautiful sentiment here. I'd take things even one step further: that our own suffering can be united to His, and offered as a sacrifice and prayer. That thought has gotten me through many difficult times - because as much as we suffer, it can't even compare to how much He did.
Big hugs and prayers for you, Dif
Me: 46 Her: 41 M: 5.5 yrs / S: 20, 18 3/26 W and I meet OW BD: 5/2/2015, she takes off ring W goes to stay with OW 6/26 NC: 9/5 Both moved out: 10/16 I take off my ring and feel... healed: 10/19
Everytime I think I've detached, something pops up to show me how very wrong I am.
Geez - how true is THIS? Every freaking time.
No kidding...
Me: 46 Her: 41 M: 5.5 yrs / S: 20, 18 3/26 W and I meet OW BD: 5/2/2015, she takes off ring W goes to stay with OW 6/26 NC: 9/5 Both moved out: 10/16 I take off my ring and feel... healed: 10/19
Yep - same boat today - random text from W and set me back to Square 1. I am so p*ssed about myself for letting it get me down. Obviously need to work on detaching more. Never ending job!
Hello my friends, I have had almost no time to login. Sometimes, when this happens, I go to your threads to see what the latest is and get to mine, if I can, last. Since I am blessed with such wonderful friends, I thought you might be concerned, so therefore the quick post here.
Since my last post 2 days ago I saw/read Eirinn’s, Matt’s, DifRent’s, HeavyD’s and PigPen’s posts. Thanks all so much! BTW, PP – you guys are not hijacking my thread. And, even if you were, always feel free to if it helps someone. Promise?
Journaling:
1. Sunday 7/12 “knucklehead” me decides to send a “pulse check” text to my wife. 2. Sunday 7/12 (late) she replies, and it hurts. 3. Monday 7/13 I post both texts to my thread. Had an IC appointment that night that went well. 4. Tuesday 7/14 I worked a very, very long day. Too tired to even login. 5. Tuesday 7/14 I placed a book I received while attending a MS Care-Giver’s Support Group on our kitchen counter. I attached a note to my W indicating I got it from the Support Group (which she never knew I attended) and she could have it if she wants. I mentioned I found that our situation is NOT unique and I found the book encouraging. 6. Wednesday 7/15 This is the day my wife planned on stopping by our place to pick up summer clothes, etc. 7. Wednesday 7/15 I meet for dinner after work with a long-time female friend (truly friends only) and had a great time. 8. Wednesday 7/15 I get home from dinner, and my wife had been there. Did not take anything of mine. But she did take the book and note. No, I did not see it in the trash.  I’m not making much of it, but found it interesting. At the very least, I know she took the time to read the little note I attached to the book. 9. Thursday 7/16 Another super-busy day at work. Beats not having a job!
I hope you are all hanging in there. I guess I should just wait to hear from my wife at this point, ??
Love, Bob
Me:55 yrs/W:51 yrs (has MS) M:14 yrs T:15 yrs No children together--3 each from previous marriages Wife Moved Out: 10/19/14 Wife Filed for Divorce: 10/20/14 Divorce Final: 10/21/15
Hi Bob - all sounding good. As for your last comment...'waiting to hear from your W' doesn't sound like the best place to be. Remember - you are the prize!!!
Why not just presume you won't be hearing from her for some time and enjoy moving forward with your own life - which I think you are doing well BTW....
The thing I think you still need to work on are these urges to 'poke the bear.' I would leave your W well alone for the time being....
Take care xx
T 13 M 7 Me 48 H 46 SS 15 BD 7.14 PA D final 5.16 (H filed)
We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus
