Thanks for everybody chipping in. I'm annoyed with myself more than anything. It's just weird. Sixteen and a half years, I've explored every nook and cranny, I just can't fathom it.
Anyway, kids enjoyed ride out and W has done all the ironing while I was away. Light conversation on my return, nothing special. Note though that SIL has re-appeared to the texting pool. Hmmm.....more poison me thinks!
M 45 W 52 SD22 S9 D8 BD 6 April 2015 Not living together 4 Dec 2015
Detach detach detach. It's fine. So the evil witch from command central is back in the mix. Fine, extra pma from you and 180 all over the place. You can do this mate. I don't see you having as bad a situation as most. She's still there, still communicating (ok, spewing a lot but you get my drift) and still carrying out acts of service and no A.
If I were an expert, and I'm not id say she is still very conflicted about leaving.
BD the @ss outa this.
Me:43 Her:42 M:14 S:9 EA started 2014/03 (or there abouts) PA started 2014/05/30 BD:2014/11/05 I left 2015/10/01 I returned 2015/05/02 She left 2015/06/10 OM still on the go.
Thanks Bud. When W works things through her mind, she mumbles under her breath. Noticed she is doing that ten to the dozen when I got out of the bath, staring out of the window.
Compared to some people on here, I can see that I'm still in with a chance. I hope people don't think I'm being unduly negative - it still hurts, whatever is going on!
M 45 W 52 SD22 S9 D8 BD 6 April 2015 Not living together 4 Dec 2015
We all know that mate. Ultimately the WAS is looking for a change. They are unhappy. At what? Dunno but all we can do is be introspective. Don't look at them look at us. That's what I recon this gig is all about. Saving yourself.
Sure, the fear is there and it's very destructive what they are doing. It's easy to look at them and get stressed over why they are doing this but at the end of the day they will either come round of not. Something(s) made them do this. We've all had the 4x2 about our part in this. I know I did from Mr Bond and I'm grateful that he did that.
Because at the end of the day if destroying a family with all the emotional and financial turmoil is the better option after all this time we must accept that they were really unhappy.
Like you, I had no clue until the A started. Sure, I can talk all night about the reasons I think why my WW did what she did but right now there is no point. The point is to become a man only a fool would leave.
Peace
Me:43 Her:42 M:14 S:9 EA started 2014/03 (or there abouts) PA started 2014/05/30 BD:2014/11/05 I left 2015/10/01 I returned 2015/05/02 She left 2015/06/10 OM still on the go.
An L letter arrived this morning, nearly two weeks after W had said she had told the L to stop. Do I make a fuss about this or just shrug my shoulders?
Angry and disapointed at the moment.
M 45 W 52 SD22 S9 D8 BD 6 April 2015 Not living together 4 Dec 2015
Huddy, I'm sorry to hear that. Is it possible there has been a misunderstanding with your W and her L? Or that she intended to tell the L to pause but didn't? It is possible this is a 'believe nothing they say' - or have said in your W's case.
I'm not a vet, and you may want to wait for one to drop by. But I would say to leave things until you are able to calmly deal with them. If you can shrug, I would do that. I would also take your anger and disappointment elsewhere and not be around your W just now if that's possible.
Sorry you're having a rough day and take care. x
T 13 M 7 Me 48 H 46 SS 15 BD 7.14 PA D final 5.16 (H filed)
We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus
Please start a new thread. This one is going to lock fairly soon.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
