Vapo and others. I HAVE and continue to change for myself - I don't want that point to be missed. Where I was getting confused and still don't know that it was answered was DB talks about looking your best, acting your best and being overly positive to ww in your interactions.
If we truly make changes for ourselves, why do that? It seems THAT aspect is really for her.
M-33 W-33 S-11, S-8 M-11, T-14 BD - 12/26, Divorce Filing and admits to affair (her) 4/18 I moved out 5/23
Vapo and others. I HAVE and continue to change for myself - I don't want that point to be missed. Where I was getting confused and still don't know that it was answered was DB talks about looking your best, acting your best and being overly positive to ww in your interactions.
If we truly make changes for ourselves, why do that? It seems THAT aspect is really for her.
Rip - I've been doing just this. Bought some new clothes, Cologne, shoes, etc. but I'm not doing it for her. I'm doing it to feel more confident. I'm doing it so that I can have better interactions with her when I do see or talk to her. I'm not doing it to try to impress her.
It does. However, I'm finding the more confident I'm getting and the more I'm away and apart from her, the less I care about having any interactions - sounds weird.
The reason I had the concern about the interactions or lack there of is I was/am worried that I will choose to no longer want her in my life because it's easier and better to not interact - I'm happier.
I just thought of an idea and know something that could help me. Will start a new thread soon.
