Old dog seeks new trick 14

[Old Dog]

Today, our tenants moved out. This means we are under financial pressure as we still have to pay the rent for the hose ww and the kids live in, the mortgage for the house we own and I also have to pay rent for the flay I live in ... and ww had no job. Mind you she's still talking of taking the kids on holiday with money her mother is giving her.

We met at our house this afternoon to check the house and so the tenants could hand over the keys. I rolled up with S13 and the top down and parked right outside, so this was the first time she'd seen my new car. I parked it out of sight yesterday and then thought why am i doing this? She knows I've got it as S(now)13 showed her a pic on my fb page. Anyway she didn't mention it, not that I thought she would.

Again we didn't speak other than business. I gave S13 a hug said goodbye to him, ignored her and drove off back to my flat.

It'll take a while longer to be anything other than just civil I think. I'm not at the friendly neighbour stage but I'm not trying to kill her with evil looks now and I'm not simmering with rage.

Detachment is good.

[u-turn]

Detachment is good - keep it up OD (it is getting easier - isn't it?) Let her stew about the car - I'm sure she notices.

I have been on a similar anger train that you have described in the last couple of weeks - I may know how you feel.

I wish you luck with the financial mess that you are stepping in.

Cheers!

[Vanilla]

OD

I get fin mess, in a big way too.

One day at a time. Are you going to get new tenants?

V

[rd500]

Sounds like you handling the meeting very well Baby steps OD but you are getting there. Well done mate.

Take care. Rd

[Old Dog]

Thanks all. We're going to sell the house ... hopefully, though I can't believe next door but one, two and three are up for sale as well!

She certainly noticed the car as she pulled up in front of it :-) I'm trying not think about what she might think of it, whether she stews or not, I don't care.

I hope the anger train stops at a station soon u. It's difficult to derail that thing.

A bit worrying about fins, but I'm pleased with my baby steps.

[Vanilla]

And you should be pleased.

I am!

V

[Old Dog]

Speaking of baby steps.

I think the baby maybe a giant baby. And the baby might be heading in a different direction.

I've got a date!

[SunnyB]

Wow, OD! What a difference from you in just a few weeks. Good for you!

[Sotto]

Hi OD, pleased to hear about your date. Like many of us, you may well not be at all ready to think about another relationship. But if you are honest about your circumstances and keep things on a light and friendly basis, sounds good to me!

I just think it's important to remain self-aware, and be sure that you are not seeking validation or trying to skip painful steps you know?

I hope you enjoy yourself anyway!

[Vanilla]

If you are ready to date then I am really pleased.

Tell me about your date, what will you do, where will you go.

V