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I am blessed to have such great friends.


As are we all. Thank you Bob. smile I nope this is a turning point for you, you deserve it.


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Hello Pyrite,

You’re welcome and you are correct! Thank you for the kind sentiment, too. grin

I hope things are going better for you. Hang in there and keep a PMA. It IS helping me.

Your friend,

Bob


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Hi Bob, glad you came up with a good response - with a little help from your friends! I think others make an important point about the no expectations. It is easy at a time like this (where a little warmth and regret seem to have crept in) for our expectations to rise and then potentially crash again. This is why no expectations is so important.

If our expectations don't rise, we can just calmly note what happens next and move forwards. If they do rise, they either crash again if things don't go as we expect (hello rollercoaster) or they rise and may lead us to push too soon or too hard - which can then lead to a pull back.

So, my advice is keep yourself busy and steady. Do your own thing and don't worry if your W read the text yet...and keep on keeping on...

You're doing great Bob!!


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Cadet,

Can you please fix the link to the 5th thread on the first page? Thanks dearie....

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Originally Posted By: Toots
You're doing great Bob!!
Hello Toots,

Thank you for the advice and kind words. No expectations is what I have. wink

{{{{{Toots}}}}}

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Cadet,

Can you please fix the link to the 5th thread on the first page? Thanks dearie....

xoxo
Hello Wonka,

I messed that up? Obviously, I must have. Thanks for noticing and reaching out to Cadet.

{{{{{Wonka}}}}}

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Bob

Just read your threads as I don't like posting without doing so, makes me nervous.

Dearest Bob, take your time, rebuild your castle walls carefully brick by brick. Remember MS is a very tiring and fluctuating illness that your W needs to manage first and foremost. She has to do this before she manages her R and as time goes on this will require more of her focus.

Allow her to set her priorities and remember that much of it is from necessity.

Reduce the emotional loading and be casual and breezy. Your W knows what she needs and how to manage her stuff. let her use her higher power for her.

You have enough to do to manage you.

Doing great and thank you for your lovely posts on my thread in such a difficult time.

V


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Vanilla,

Thank you very much for catching up on my sitch and posting such great advice.

Also, you are very welcome. I do my best to help or at least offer encouragement to others. It makes me feel good!

BTW, no reply yet from my wife. I’m sure she is still exhausted. I pray for her well-being every night, no matter how this turns out. I know I will hear from her when she is ready. No expectations.

Hang in there, V. You are a wonderful person!

xoxoxo

Bob


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Thanks Cadet...xo. Now back to Bob's regularly scheduled programming. grin

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Thanks Cadet...xo. Now back to Bob's regularly scheduled programming. grin


Yea - I saw your smoke signal...... grin grin grin


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