Well the 'urgent' phone calls were to ask if i'd paid a bill! When I actually counted the calls on my works phone from W plus my mobile, the total came to nine calls and four text messages.
So, W was absent at the station when I got there, which I expected, so there is nothing like a bracing uphill mile and a half walk home after work, right?
Got home and D wanted me to go to her school art show. Well, what she actually wanted was mummy and daddy to go, but guess who didn't want to attend? That really upset my D, but in the usual WW mentality, it didn't matter. W helpfully shouted that if I wanted to buy D's picture it would cost �8 and that she had been on her own in the morning.
Really enjoyed the art show. D's picture was great. Met two of W's friends whilst I was there. They were really nice, but it was obviously awkward for them. Understandable, but I showed a confident face and chatted amiably with them for a while. Bought the picture and went home. D again upset with W that she didn't attend. That's a harsh one to take, seeing my D upset and I wanted to yell, but didn't.
Started making my tea and SD was going to the doctors to see about her anti depresents. W decided to drive SD there and took S with her. As she was leaving she tried to tell me something her L had said today, but I just said I didn't want to know. That riled her, so she stormed off.
When she came back, she asked again about the bill (yawn) and asked where it was. I need copies for the L so told her it was at work. W mocked me by talking in a really slow voice. I told her not to be sarcastic. S's autism reactions are kicking off and he is headbutting things again, which doesn't happen when he's not stressed. Again W doesn't seem bothered.
So, on a moving ahead score, I think that's a 0 out of 10.
M 45 W 52 SD22 S9 D8 BD 6 April 2015 Not living together 4 Dec 2015
Well, at least you can see it for what it really is and can rise above it. S9 no longer talks about M and D doing things together. He knows it's not going to happen.
I can't believe your W isn't taking notice of the affect on your S. The selfishness know no bounds. Unbelievable. It's not his fault this is happening. Poor wee soul. My heart breaks for him.
Me:43 Her:42 M:14 S:9 EA started 2014/03 (or there abouts) PA started 2014/05/30 BD:2014/11/05 I left 2015/10/01 I returned 2015/05/02 She left 2015/06/10 OM still on the go.
As he can't really speak, the only way he can express frustration is to hit/throw/headbutt things. When I had him in the bath I told him not to worry about Mummy and Daddy. No idea if he really understands but the selfishness of W just carries on.
M 45 W 52 SD22 S9 D8 BD 6 April 2015 Not living together 4 Dec 2015
As he can't really speak, the only way he can express frustration is to hit/throw/headbutt things. When I had him in the bath I told him not to worry about Mummy and Daddy. No idea if he really understands but the selfishness of W just carries on.
im sure he understands better than we appreciate. Hence the frustration.
I'm glad you talked to him. Sometimes just being there is enough for any kid. No matter the maelstrom going on around them. At least you are being the leader here. Good on you.
Me:43 Her:42 M:14 S:9 EA started 2014/03 (or there abouts) PA started 2014/05/30 BD:2014/11/05 I left 2015/10/01 I returned 2015/05/02 She left 2015/06/10 OM still on the go.
Sounds horrible that she doesn't seem to care about stressing your son. But I've heard so much stuff of how parents can put themselves before their kids in these kinds of situations, so I'm not surprised.. Just sad for your sons sake.
Glad you had a good time at the art show!
Sleep tight dear Huddy! Think your doing great! Hug
M: 44 H: 43 ILYBNILWY: 7/4-15 Decided to try to reconnect. "This doesn't work, I have no feelings": 20/4-15 Scheduled "talk" :9/5-15 It's over: 9/5
Got out of the bath last night and said to W that I wanted to take S to his specialist just to be checked over. W said why are you talking in a soft voice (she was shouting and S was in the room) all your doing is trying to get the upper hand. Ten she stormed off.
No W. I care about my kids that you don't seem to. The selfishness in just bewildering.
Had a nightmare last night. Funnily, it was in colour and I can remember it now. We were all on a bus, going to buy wallpapaer (!) and I was begging and pleading her not ot go. Guess that's my inner self trying to wrestle the situation back.
Anyway, sunny today, so that always makes the day a bit better.
M 45 W 52 SD22 S9 D8 BD 6 April 2015 Not living together 4 Dec 2015
Got out of the bath last night and said to W that I wanted to take S to his specialist just to be checked over. W said why are you talking in a soft voice (she was shouting and S was in the room) all your doing is trying to get the upper hand. Ten she stormed off.
No W. I care about my kids that you don't seem to. The selfishness in just bewildering.
Had a nightmare last night. Funnily, it was in colour and I can remember it now. We were all on a bus, going to buy wallpapaer (!) and I was begging and pleading her not ot go. Guess that's my inner self trying to wrestle the situation back.
Anyway, sunny today, so that always makes the day a bit better.
Talking in a soft voice is trying to get the upper hand? Well, that's a new one one me. I'd keep up the cool demeanour. You don't need to explain your actions to her.
Good that you are putting your S first as well. Be the best dad you can. It's apparently very attractive.
Me:43 Her:42 M:14 S:9 EA started 2014/03 (or there abouts) PA started 2014/05/30 BD:2014/11/05 I left 2015/10/01 I returned 2015/05/02 She left 2015/06/10 OM still on the go.
