I don't know what he wants and I am confused I have been doing so good about detaching and not expecting anything and then for the last week he has been texting me and nice. So weird.
I feel like I am having a set back. I have a question. Is it a good idea not to contact them unless they contact us first. I feel like I can contact him first once in a while since he spent last week contacting me first.
It ended friendly we kinda of joked around so I contacted him today and I got one word "Yep" back and so I sent one more text and nothing so I have stopped and now I will wait for him to make contact with me. Kind of the ball is in his court and maybe a lesson learned for me not to contact him first anymore for awhile. I don't think he is receptive to it and it makes me wait around to see if he will text back.
so I am GAL, live and learn and tomorrow is a new day and learn from what I did today.
Thing you have to start doing is detach and get out of his head ... this will help you in many areas .. one of which is right there in front of you
You detached and your H started pursuing you, motorcycle ride, THEN you decided to TM him, you flipped it and started pursuing .. he immediately backed off .... DB ... Do what works right?
GAL and PMA, get busy doing your thing and make yourself someone he WANTS to be with, not out of guilt or obligation.
Yep its hard to stay out of that mindtrap of his. I am working on this. Texting yeah I thought it would be ok in moderation because I wanted to show that I want to be friendly but it must just be on his terms.
He did bring me a coffee today when he came to pick up S for school and he loaded up some junk to take to dump. I text him later and thanked him but I have heard nothing from him.
No more texting from me today. I apprec the points CaliGuy!
Last night I got home and he had mowed my yard. So he is being halfway nice and doing things but as soon as I get home he chats for a few minutes and then leaves. I wonder why he doesn't stay and talk or maybe ask me out for dinner. Is this expecting too much? Should I just be glad that he is staying long enough for me to get home and we see each other if only for a few minutes? This is more then it has been.
Should I ask him to stay for dinner or would that be too much? I have really tried to back off the contacting him first and when he is there I try and talk but also do my thing.
should I just wait it out and wait for him to ask me to dinner or do something other then small talk. He did ask me for motorcycle ride last Friday but he seems reluctant to move on from small talk.
MLC is so confusing because I don't want to scare him off but I don't want him to think he has to do all the work
