I haven't thought about writing anything helpful for anyone else, and I haven't thought of anything to write about my own sitch, until now...
W texted me on Monday night to invite me over to help d17 evaluate her college choices. D17 had 2 colleges to go over, and I essentially did spreadsheets on the 2 schools, and showed there was over a $10k difference for the schools.
I told d17 I would call the 2 schools the next day to see if there were any other options. And yes, it was so bad, schoo1 #1(the one with better grants/scholarships) answered my call, clearly answered my q's, gave me a website to provide more of a detailed response, they were great.
School #2, who happens to be in-state, provides significantly worse scholarships/grants, and I called them on Tuesday morning and left a detailed message, and in 2 days they haven't even bothered to return my phone call. I don't even think they are in the running right now, though they are the "religious" choice.
Oh and btw, W was there as I went over the numbers for d17, on her phone the entire time, and was eating a garlic pretzel snack mix. I and d17 declined. Then W said the garlic was so strong that she had to go brush her teeth, taking her phone with her and then disappeared for 10 minutes. Yes, I'm sick of her acting like a 20-something with her phone.
What made it worse, today W texts me and says there is a $500 application fee for school #1 and she asked how much I was going to contribute. I am frustrated as I gave her all of the recent tax return refunds (over $7k) and of course W said this was going partially to the kids. I just texted her to say how happy I was d17 had made her choice on schools, I just couldn't bring myself to respond directly to her question on how much I was going to contribute.
Oh yes, W was mad at d20 on Sunday (d20 has a truck) who was late in getting her truck to help with several "furniture moves". D20 is always late, so I tried to calm W down as she was fuming as d20 wasn't at the scheduled furniture move on time. W knows better than to expect d20 to be on time. It wasn't my issue.
Oh and ughhhh! I have a colonoscopy tomorrow. Does anyone know? Will I be able to get any sleep tonight?
The 4 little pills and the thick gel stuff I have to drink every 15 minutes is for the birds. Mixing it with Mio orange/vanilla makes it almost drinkable.
Yes, hope it went well. Just remember the doc should only have one hand on your shoulder
AJ
"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter" MLK Put the glass down... "Yesterday I was clever so I wanted to change the world Today I am wise, so I am changing myself."
OK, I normally post a joke on Fridays, but AJ, you already beat me to the punch.
Everything is well with my colon. However, my neuro-surgeon has scheduled an appointment for me to come in next Thursday after he has reviewed my recent MRI. Let's see what comes next on my spine...
I haven't followed your thread too much so I don't know the details of your sitch but why would you give her the entire refund and expect her to act fairly with the $$.
You know she in teenager mode so of course she is not saving any for applications.
You need to protect yourself and your kids financially and not give her any more $$ then is her fair share.
You should have split the refund 50/50 then paid your part of the application.
Just my 2 cents
Be well
---- M 39 H 35 D5,D4 M 4 T 9 ILYBNILWY 5/18/11 Left 7/11/11 Divorced 12/1/13
Glad it came back with good news and honestly, I was looking forward to your Friday joke.
AJ
"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter" MLK Put the glass down... "Yesterday I was clever so I wanted to change the world Today I am wise, so I am changing myself."
Hi BklynMom, Yes, I was conflicted about the tax refund. But at the time, I was looking at paying into the IRS if I filed separately. So I was relieved of not being into debt to the IRS.
It is funny how things work out. I am current on paying my child support. But for some reason, the County levied on "my" refund to pay the next month's support. So W's refund is actually less, and I do get credit for this month's child support. The government should not be so quick to levy on refunds, especially on jointly filed returns, as in this case they hurt the person they are trying to help.
