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How do answer her without starting a war?

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How do answer her without starting a war?

Validation

I understand that is what you want,that must have been very hard to tell me.


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Should I respond with, You want to know why I didn't tell you I took our son to work? Because I thought that's what you want, for us to be able to do what we want with our childern without discussing.

Do I leave it at that or continue into how it doesn't feel good? Do I respond to her text, or make her talk face to face which she's been having a problem doing?


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Should I respond with, You want to know why I didn't tell you I took our son to work? Because I thought that's what you want, for us to be able to do what we want with our childern without discussing.

Do I leave it at that or continue into how it doesn't feel good? Do I respond to her text, or make her talk face to face which she's been having a problem doing?

NO!!

You have already responded.

Why do you need to keep responding, what is she saying?


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She is saying nothing, she sent text last night wanting to know why I didn't tell her. That's it so far. Sure she will bring it up again tonight if not earlier. Just want to know best way to respond when she does.


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Well why did you take him to work?

What you wrote above sounds like retaliation against her.
That is not what you want to answer.
Or if it is true just admit it.


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How old are your kids?
How old are you and your wife?

As soon as you are able please modify your signature in "My Stuff" above, you will need to be off moderation first, which should come shortly.


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Took him to work to see what I do, he brought up to me the night before. Wasn't retaliation, was going to text her that I was picking him up, but thought to myself, she wouldn't tell me. She works long hours, so me picking him up doesn't effect her. I'm the one who gets him from school everyday. She found out fro pics I posted on Facebook of us at my work.

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Took him to work to see what I do, he brought up to me the night before. Wasn't retaliation, was going to text her that I was picking him up, but thought to myself, she wouldn't tell me.

So IF the question of why you took him to work comes up then that is the answer ^^^^^ for a father son bonding day to see what you do!


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Yes but her question will be why didn't I tell her what I was doing.

Seems to be one-way streak of how we are suppose to communicate.


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