Well, happy anniversary to you, rpp! Today is also my D18's birthday.
While my XH and I do not celebrate our anniversary together, we acknowledge it. Here's the deal. We have an annivorcery as well - which we don't acknowledge. The annivorcery will never take away the fact that we have an anniversary - which merely marks an annual date of an event that happened. Your wedding day *did* happen! It was presumably a happy day, and because of that day, it brought you 4 lovely children and lots of other gifts. These gifts are never negated.
In the early days, I used to be very sad on that day. One day, I woke up and realized that nothing I do or he does can take away from that. I celebrate it in my heart because of the gifts that came from that day. We actually talked about this at dinner last night, while we were reminiscing about 18 years ago. Time is a great healer, my friend.
And in the end, my 25th wedding anniversary is in September. I might just have to send him flowers.
I'm glad your H acknowledged to you. He's not a heartless bastard, rpp. That's the great news.
"There are only 2 ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle."
I'm glad your H acknowledged to you. He's not a heartless bastard, rpp. That's the great news.
Of course he's not a heartless bastard. He's Mr Perfect
I've never viewed our anniversary as the marker of the wedding. I have always seen it as the marker of the relationship itself. Still, I'm not especially sad today. I do think its a shame he's thrown away 25 years with someone that loved him and was loyal to him, that's he's confused an erection with passion. But I think that every day.
