ADHD and EA

[Cadet]

Get out of my head, Cadet!!

You know great minds think alike,

anyways you were 28 secs faster than me.

[Burger]

I do have GAL activities planned. Tomorrow night I will stop by a friends house to watch a game. Sunday I'm meeting a couple friends at a museum to see a traveling exhibit.

I will put my hallmark cards away.

She was quite cranky tonight. Said she wanted to alone and went to her room to play her game and chat / text. Somehow I pissed her off while I was at work. But, I'm still in a good mood tonight.

[Burger]

It's been an ok afternoon. Watching movies on TV. She actually came and sat down with me in the room for a while. There was very little communication, and she did use her phone most of the time. It's tough being in the room with the person you love and being ignored. I kept a happy attitude though.

[sandi2]

It is important that you not bend over backwards trying to cushion her feelings. If she's in a bad mood, so what? It is not your job to try to change it. However, if she acts pi$$ed at you, and you don't even know why? Do not be her cat she gets to kick when she feels like it.

Seriously, these attempts to please a WW just turns her off. You need to create some fun between you and the kids, find something entertaining for yourself, or get out of the house. But do not try to make things lovely for her. That is not how you deal with a WW.

[Burger]

I'm doing better in dealing with her than I was just a few weeks ago. When she is cranky I just steer clear, let her be cranky by herself.

The other night she said something I did not appreciate, just a mean comment, I bit my tongue until I was settled down and told her calmly that I did not appreciate what she said. How I did not like what she was implying. I wasn't going to drawn into an argument. She said she didn't mean it that way, but I reiterated that it came across that way. She walked away shaking her head at me, but argument avoided.

[Burger]

My GAL activities were great, but unfortunately I have to come home to her again. She did nothing all weekend but use her tablet and phone.

I think I want her to leave. I need some time to myself without having her sending naked pictures to internet boyfriends under my nose.

I will talk with my therapist and pshyc this week about confronting her about the online stuff and asking her to leave. It's just too hard on me these days. I can't get better when every few days i discover something else.

[Burger]

I woke up feeling better this morning, like a weight has been lifted off my shoulders. I think deciding that it is time to start getting ready to move on has helped.

Driving to work I was very down. But a different sad than the last four weeks, kind of an accepting that it’s over sad. A getting ready to move on sad. Maybe a mourning sad?

[sandi2]

Maybe. If it's the end of the M, mourning needs to happen. Other than the M problems, how are you feeling?

[Burger]

I have been feeling better lately, still a lot of emotions and some swings up and down. But the up swings are lasting longer now. Been talking to my sister a lot lately. She has been great to talk with. She asked me an interesting question that I’m still thinking about:

Was I truly happy in the M, or was I comfortable. The last few months I think we were both just comfortable. There was a lot going on last fall, she changed jobs, the holidays, a lot of restructuring at my work. There was just a lot of stress. We hit a bit of a rut I guess.

Starting to work on some moving on activities has been helpful as well. I can look forward to a time when there is no cybersex going at the other end of the house while I’m trying to sleep.

[sandi2]

Sometimes comfortable feels pretty good after a long spell of stress. However, we tend to get a little complacent maybe.

Glad you are feeling better.