Oh my gosh, any reference to continuing the status quo or wanting it to last longer or even head toward divorce by him would have me in the pits of despair for days, even weeks.
I'm not sure why it has taken me SO long to get to this place but I'm here and I'm glad.
hey S. Good on you for answering her directly. You ask if she will know you tried. Trust me when I tell you that she knows. She is watching closely. They figure it all out in time.
You get to show her how to navigate through the tough stuff. Show her well. If you are ok, she will be, too.
As far as always wanting to see other's perspective, I think for those of us who grew up with turmoil, people pleasing comes with the territory most times.
But you matter, S. Your feelings, your opinions matter. No one person is better than any other person.
If took me 4 therapists to find the one that helped me change my life.
How much do you think/worry about what D7 will think in the future about all of this?
I don't dwell on it but she's observant and super smart. Smarter than she gets credit for and I think she keeps asking about our separation not because she's impatient but because she's not getting satisfying answers. I'm committed to being there for her through this and not just asking what the trigger is or why she's asking about it.
