Hey Matt. Good for you getting the car done. That's a good feeling to get something like that out of the way.
I think you could put off the info for a day. If she asks tomorrow, just let her know you have been busy. It is the truth and you don't have to work on her timeline.
Don't sweat it. I know the pressure you feel when asked to do those things. The more you realize you have to put your needs before hers, you won't feel as badly by it. You also won't feel like you have to do things her way. This is your life, too, Matt.
I wouldn't even over explain it if she asks. Just a simple, "No, sorry, I didn't have time."
Well, tried out Uber last night, I'm a bit unhappy with them as once I got out to the city and tried to get online they asked for all this extra info that I was just lucky I had with me. That delayed me getting started. I ended up having one short fare and one really long one after (that went in the opposite direction than I needed to go!). I headed home after the long fare and just as I was almost home, I had another potential fare beep me but it was almost 2:00 in the AM and I just headed home. So, I ended up making only about $30 and used maybe $8.00 in gas! It was a good learning experience though and next time I have a better idea how it will work. I need to get an earlier start and now have a better idea of where to be.
I texted my W before leaving and told her that I would bring what little info I have about her student loans. She texted back a one word "Thanks". I have been thinking of all the ways W has made things harder. How she moved so far away and wants to keep joint custody at the same time. How when she talked about moving where she did I told her how that would make it so much harder for me AND D14 if I had to get a job north but she just dismissed me like it was just ridiculous I wouldn't find a job south, Typical MLCer just thinking that I was trying to stop her from getting her way, not being logical or realistic. Once she made the choice to leave, she stopped caring about anything but herself...including her D's, especially D19. My lawyer couldn't believe that she moved that far and still expected to do one week with me one with her mother. He said that can only work if the homes are close, like same neighborhood close! Not 30 miles. But of course W didn't want to hear that. If something isn't to her liking she just dismisses it like it just is some ploy to stop her from "finding her joy" and having her way. Just like her leaving D14 alone after school every day, nothing wrong with that, she can take care of herself, nothing bad will ever happen. She has become someone who only cares about herself, nothing and no one (except her father, and that is because she wants so badly to get his approval so even that is about her) matters. If she was going through all the money and job difficulties ust fight for what is I have been, she would have had a nervous breakdown by now! As it is she is making so much money and is still "stressed" about it.
I have to just not think about her. I need to think of myself and my D's and what is best for us. I didn't want this D, I was willing to do whatever it took to keep this family whole and avoid all this, she was the one who lost her way, stopped trying (her own words) and I have to do what's best to keep MY family, my D's and me, in the best position possible.
I have to just not think about her. I need to think of myself and my D's and what is best for us. I didn't want this D, I was willing to do whatever it took to keep this family whole and avoid all this, she was the one who lost her way, stopped trying (her own words) and I have to do what's best to keep MY family, my D's and me, in the best position possible.
You're not alone. Keep your head up and keep moving. Kids come first even if you have to carry the load yourself. Not a good reality but true. I like your drive so I see you doing just fine
W-37 Me-37 M-16yrs & 5days W "Done" Day = Valentine Day 2014 D-8/13/2014 S16 S13 S11 D8
Catching up on your sitch Matt. Glad to hear that you got the car all ready and were able to do Uber. $22 for the night isn't a great profit but it's $22 more than you had, right? Hopefully next time it will be much better. I'm so glad you have that option somewhat nearby.
Ugh. The "finding her joy" comment. That is so typical for our MLCer's isn't it? Apparently their "joy" is most important and it doesn't matter who else's joy they take in finding and following thiers. So annoying.
Keep your chin up Matt. You have gone through some really hard times recently, you are due for a breakthrough soon! Praying for you.
Me- 40 H- 41 S8, D5, S4 M 19 y T 23 Bomb drop 6/2013 H asked for/filed for D 9/2014 22 yo OW discovered 9/19/14 they're engaged and living together
The kids suffer the most but it's inconsequential while they tend to their happiness.
I truly believe God has a plan and when the timing is right it will unfold for you. Keep working hard and show everyone especially kiddos what you're made of.
W-37 Me-37 M-16yrs & 5days W "Done" Day = Valentine Day 2014 D-8/13/2014 S16 S13 S11 D8
