LOL! I had a similar experience with a certified mail envelope that I received soon after BD and that I had to sign for. I was sweating when I opened it. It was a letter from VW about a recall!
Congrats on the certification! Sounds like that will help you take a step in the right direction.
I'm likewise struggling with conversation when I see my H. I'll be interested to hear if you come across some strategies to make conversation a little easier.
H 37 Me 36 Together 15 years Married 5 years No kids BD Apr 2014 H moved out 2 Jun 2014
On the up part of the roller coaster today and by golly, I'm going to embrace it. Signed up to work towards my PMP certification as well. Might as well use those occasional sleepless nights and evenings when H has kids for something constructive. Being highly employable (hopefully) makes me feel empowered and I could use a little more of that in my life right now.
Rough morning DB friends. H has informed me that he filing for divorce. He spelled out how he is trying to make it as "easy" on me as possible. Feeling so low.
I guess I should give some details. It sounds like he has actually filed - he said it would be more favorable to me if it was heard in my county so there is already a petition to move it there.
He said our marriage had become too much like his parents because we sleep in separate beds. For the record, we do this because of his work schedule and I always thought it bothered me more than him.
He also said he is planning on establishing residency in Nevada so that when the girls are older he can move there becasue he "hates California".
Happily my DB coach is available today so I have a coaching session with her.
THis shouldn't bother me quite so much. I was fully expecting him to file in January when our self imposed waiting period lifted (he is so withdrawn I just didn;t think major improvement was possible by then) - but I figured time was my ally and was trying to stretch everything as much as possible.
So sorry too raliced. My h has told me he wants a divorce and I received a letter from his L last week. So I know what it feels like. Please take care of you and the girls, you will get through this. Sending love x
Me - 44 Husband - 47 D20, S18 BD - Aug 2013 Moved out - Jan 2014 OW discovered Jan 2014
I had responded to him saying that I would rather go through mediation than use attys. He said he had already filed and was using an atty, but emphasized he wasn't going to fight me on anything and just wants a flexible child arrangement.
He said "I too wish we could have worked on things before, but this would have been several years ago when I thought what we had was a perfect country life."
He did say he would go to counseling for the girls.
He can't seem to figure out if the marriage used to be all c*** or if its just the fault of the move. By the way - we still live in a very rural area and actually have more property than we did in Iowa.
Ugh..ugh...ugh...
I know I will feel differently later - but today part of me wants to take him up on the amicable arrangement and just be done with it.
