Sometimes life takes an unexpected turn, and for us, it means going our separate ways. We know it will be quite a surprise to many you and in some ways it is to us as well. Although we are sad to part ways, we remain friends and want what is best for each other. Reach out to us should you wish.
We love each and every one of you.
With both our hearts, Jacket and H
At this point, I wash my hands of this nonsense. In other news, I began seeing auras and then a migraine hit me. I got sent home from work, at the urging of the Kaiser advice nurse. Wheeeeee!
Me: 35, H: 37, no kids Together since 2002, Married since 2007 IDKIILY: 2/2013 MC: 5/2013-6/2014 H stated he was REALLY done: 4/2014 I moved out 7/6/14 H filed end of 8/2014 but still hasn't served me
Already in bed with my PJs on. Great start to this 3-day weekend! =P
Me: 35, H: 37, no kids Together since 2002, Married since 2007 IDKIILY: 2/2013 MC: 5/2013-6/2014 H stated he was REALLY done: 4/2014 I moved out 7/6/14 H filed end of 8/2014 but still hasn't served me
No response to my email yet. He was so hot to trot about it that I sort of expected an immediate response. I know, I know. No expectations. I'm feeling sad that I'm in bed on a Friday night. I have FOMO (fear of missing out) right now. However, my migraine is pretty much gone. I just have a dull headache.
Me: 35, H: 37, no kids Together since 2002, Married since 2007 IDKIILY: 2/2013 MC: 5/2013-6/2014 H stated he was REALLY done: 4/2014 I moved out 7/6/14 H filed end of 8/2014 but still hasn't served me
The stupidity continues. I texted him about the library books again, and he claims he returned them.
Now he's wanting to know why I don't want to include the piece about us attending MC for a year. When I say that I want to keep it simple and that we can tell them that if they reach out, he says that he's going to send out his own letter then.
Me: 35, H: 37, no kids Together since 2002, Married since 2007 IDKIILY: 2/2013 MC: 5/2013-6/2014 H stated he was REALLY done: 4/2014 I moved out 7/6/14 H filed end of 8/2014 but still hasn't served me
Then that's his decision. Your h clearly wants to *appear* a certain way. Friends will either inquire or not. Again, you don't owe everyone an explanation of anything.
I would just ignore his comment. He will do as he wishes. Hope you are feeling better today!
3 kids BD 12/15/13 (IDKIILY. ) Rope dropped Cirque du Soleil style D final 9-9-14 "Some people are born on 3rd base and go through life thinking they hit a triple." Barry Switzer
Okay Jacket here I go giving (what is probably) terrible advice.
But ignore him. Just ignore him.
It sounds like he is going to write AND send this stupid email no matter what you want.
And, by the way, this email is stupid.
He is going to deliver a narrative about your marriage that no one wants to hear. It's awkward and embarrassing.
Married couples don't issue press releases because no one wants to read them.
No one.
Not you. Not them. No one.
And deep down he knows this. Which is why he wants you to buy into this idiotic idea. So when people question this email he won't take all the blame.
What a wimp.
Stop responding!
Then when people ask about the wording--of this remarkably embarrassing socially awkward email WHICH THEY DO NOT WANT TO RECEIVE--you can say (with conviction) he wrote it.
What is the story you want to tell about this a year from now?
"I helped my husband write an embarrassing, socially awkward email about our separation which people will gossip about for the next 3 decades."
Or
"When my husband decided to write an embarrassing socially awkward email I expressed my objection. But he was determined to go through with it. He is an adult. I do not control his actions. Nor do I want to control his actions. That is not my role. Nor do I want it to be my role."
