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Pilot, I hear you on wants to be freinds. My wife and I have been together 19 years. It's easy to get complacent and take things for granite. I am looking at positives of working on friendship first. I know I don't want to be in m we had last couple of yrs. I am in same frame of mind as you rt now. I hope it all works out for best for you and kids.


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W 48
T 19
M 17
D 12
Twin S 6
Twin S 6
Ilybnilwy 1/26/14
A discovered 2/3/14
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So next time you are looking for a GAL, save a couple of kids from drowning


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I would definitely want you around.....if I ever go nto water. laugh I am the only one of my family who can't swim.


It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
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Pilot,

Just caught up with your Sitch again.

YOU are a HERO!!

Thank you so much for thinking of others instead of Yourself!!


Me 47/W 34
T 16 M 13
No kids
BD 6/2013
W asked that I move out 6/2013
I moved back and W is upset with this 12/2013
separate beds not much talking
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Originally Posted By: sandi2
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So next time you are looking for a GAL, save a couple of kids from drowning


whistle

I would definitely want you around.....if I ever go nto water. laugh I am the only one of my family who can't swim.



Haha sandi. I do not mind tourist at the beach who cannot swim. Its the tourist at the beach who cannot drive!!!

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Pilot,

Just caught up with your Sitch again.

YOU are a HERO!!

Thank you so much for thinking of others instead of Yourself!!


Thanks nit84.



On another note, W has been texting a bunch since she left yesterday morning. She will be back in town Sunday. Interesting side story to that. For those who are familiar with my story will remember when my S began I invited an ex to my kids bday party. Well, her niece (who she has custody of) is having her bday party on the beach this coming Sunday. She even told me to invite W, although I suppose that is one of those things girls do to other girls. I mentioned it to W while she was here (early in her visit), and she said quickly no, she did not want to go. She has S3 with her right now, and I have S5. I told her I would probably take S5.


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Married 7 years together 8.5
S1: 7 S2:7
Bomb #1: 09-16-13
Recon #1: 11/13
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Nicely done Pilot on saving the family! I now have Queen's 'We are the champions' playing as I catch up on your thread.


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Pilot, sounds like you are in a good mental state rt now. You don't know if you would want her back or not. It might become more clear to you with her living in same town , kids etc... it sounds like she is confused herself now. Hang tough and see what happends. It's a marathon .


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Journaling...

So W texted me and asked me if I was going to be taking S5 to the bday party. I said yes. She asked when I thought I would be back and she would plan on arriving in town then. She has still been sending texts and everything has been pleasant. I have been more frequent with my texting back as well. By that I mean I am no longer just 'short' but our texting is more like normal communication. I still let her send the last text most of the time.

Still not really sure what to do about M or D. Her D petition expires in about 30 days. She had already said earlier she did not plan on doing anything with it. But she also said she still thinks a D is best. Gotta love that circle of logic.


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Bomb #1: 09-16-13
Recon #1: 11/13
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Wow that is a stupid circle of logic, I agree. :P
I guess I would say just wait and do nothing. If you want to file for D later you can go ahead and do that. No need to push it now if she isn't.

Thanks again for the insight on the guy's perspective on my thread. Much appreciated.

Hugs, Lisa


Me: 34 H: 30
M: 4 years
BD: 6/15/14
He moved out 6/30/14
OW1: EA then PA after BD
Now he's dating multiple OWs
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Pilot, hang in there. If she wanted D she would move forward, something is keeping her from doing it. Remember patience, never give up.


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Pilot, hang in there. If she wanted D she would move forward, something is keeping her from doing it. Remember patience, never give up. I know how you feel. One day it all seams to be getting better, then wham. You feel like what did I do to deserve this. Keep on dB. Just think about your little ones and the example you are setting for them. That's what keeps me from throwing the towell in. Last night my w was complaining that I get to do all the fun stuff with kids. My comment back was you can come along anytime you want. We always have more fun when you come.


M 54
W 48
T 19
M 17
D 12
Twin S 6
Twin S 6
Ilybnilwy 1/26/14
A discovered 2/3/14
D filed 7/25/14
Sumons served 8/14/14

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