Dealing with WAW Part 3

[claire7]

"At any rate, I guess that probably makes a good impression for the day in front of W."

Heck, I would go so far as to say that if it didn't make her swoon, I'm not sure she deserves you. What you did is freaking awesome!

[igit]

Pilot sounds like you did well today.one day at a time. Hang in there. I am sure your wife was watching you close. Great day at beach a few beers a little catch. Great job

[Maybell]

That totally takes the cake.

[pilot]

So did you agree to her terms? Paying her expenses to live there?

I did not. I am not paying her anything, nor did I agree to. I think she was trying to use the scenario to get something out of it, but I held firm. Dont know where she is getting the money and not really concerned.

[pilot]

So when I posted my story, W, kids and I had come back to my place. W left for her aunts house where she was staying. I gave the kids a bath, me a shower, and posted here. Then drove to get W so we could finish up some last minute back to school shopping and my dad was going to watch the kids. She had dinner plans with someone else later. After about an hour and a half of shopping at WalMart and Target, we realized that the local ones were sold out of bookbags, lunch boxes, (ones we wanted at least) and other things like shoes for his uniform. We had found all of this stuff earlier in the day about an hour away. So it was about 730 and I said I would just drive back to where we were earlier and get the stuff. She asked me what I wanted her to do. I said go have a fun dinner and drink a bushwhacker for me...I needed one after the beach. So I drove her back to her aunts, and she leaned over to give me a hug. She said if I wanted to go have a drink when I got back to text her. I said ok, and drove to where I could turn the car around and was going to make sure she got in the house. That took about 30 seconds. When I pulled up to watch, she was walking back to the car and said she had just sent a text to cancel her dinner plans and was going to go with me.

So we went and did all of our shopping, got what we needed, and it was getting relatively late and we both had still not had dinner. So it became a google/google maps quest for her to find us something that would still be open. We found something, and we had a nice dinner and a drink or two. Conversation was upbeat and pleasant. Just talked about the kids, how she was sad to see our oldest off to K in the morning. She talked a lot about the beach and called and texted her friends and family to share the story. Anyways, we both had to get up early to get the kiddo to school...which is about 45-60 minutes from where I am now traffic depending. Plus I had to get all of my S3 stuff ready for her to take back as she is taking him with her till Sunday when she comes back. Drove her back to her aunts, she thanked me for a fun time and dinner, hugged, and drove off.

Eventful day....

[igit]

Pilot, it appears from an outsider that there is some positive stuff going on between you and w. Stay focused and be positive.

[Old Dog]

I'm going to order a drowning family. Where do you get them from?

[pilot]

Haha olddog. Just hang out at the beach long enough. Tourist will never disappoint.

Igit yea there were positives going on. But taken in context of everything else they were just isolated positives. We all know the roller coasters. Up one day down the next. The upside is we seem to have the school issue and living issue behind us which were two really dark clouds over our heads. Downside is she is moving forward as if she still plans a life with out me in it. Now I get the whole detachment and don't worry about what she is doing agenda. It was easy to be mysterious and have her wondering what I was doing when she was 4 hours away. Now that we will potentially be in contact daily with the kids (in a couple weeks when she moves here) it will be more difficult to project the life I want her to assume I have.

I still do not know if I want to try and rebuild this marriage. One day I do and others I feel like I am just wasting time and see so
many other chances at building a new relationship with someone else.

[LisaB]

Wow pilot, sounds like a lot of positives to me too. But I get what you are saying. My H also keeps repeating that our M is over and all I hear is over over over. And then I look around and see that other guys are interested and maybe I should just forget him and move along.

Maybe it is over but maybe there is still a chance for something new. Your story sounds like you two get along great and that she wants to spend time with you. Seems like good progress to me!

Keep on keeping on!
Hugs, Lisa

[pilot]

Wow pilot, sounds like a lot of positives to me too. But I get what you are saying. My H also keeps repeating that our M is over and all I hear is over over over. And then I look around and see that other guys are interested and maybe I should just forget him and move along.

Maybe it is over but maybe there is still a chance for something new. Your story sounds like you two get along great and that she wants to spend time with you. Seems like good progress to me!

Keep on keeping on!
Hugs, Lisa

At times it does seem great. But I also get the feeling she just wants to be friends. Wants the positives of a friendship with me, but not the marriage. It was only last week she said she wants to continue forward with the divorce saying "I think it would be best at this time". Granted she was already in a foul mood over money and the schools.

Who knows where she really is, or if she even knows. I just know every day of life is a gift. And sitting on the sidelines sometimes feels as if I am not taking full advantage of the gift given to me, and the gift I can give of myself to others.

There are other women who seem like they would be willing to put in a lot of "effort" into a relationship so why do I insist on waiting for one who has been nothing but clear she wants nothing to do with a relationship with me? Maybe she will come around in time, maybe not. Only she can figure that out. Only thing I can control is where I am at any point in time.