I am going to say this to you very softly and gently. Aren't those questions that you really want to ask yourself but afraid to do so out of fear? It seems to me that you are probably projecting them onto me as a way to avoid looking within. I've seen pain n your threads...and I sense that it is seeping into my thread.
Lol you probably right. Its easier to just avoid the ex. Mine makes very easy since she doesn't communicate. TBH I wouldn't know what to say or how to react if I bumped in to her. Been thinking about that a lot. What would I do? In my family the tradition is to ignore someone who has hurt you. Not very mature huh? So hence my questions to you. I have some more growing up to do
M 53 D 20 Separated 6/22/11 moved out 10/24 Together 26 yrs Married 16 W Filed for D 7/21/11 Served 9/6/11 D final 8/28/12
“Failure is not fatal, but failure to change might be.”
Sending positive thoughts today and I hope Mrs. Wonka will reply in a friendly and positive tone.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
Fingers crossed she replies back to you in a positive way & SOON. Our patience level has been pushed to the max, its time we all received good news much faster.... or at least enjoyed in someone elses good news.
Fingers crossed.
Magic
M:46 H:49 T:20yrs myD:22 H distant summer/12 H sleeping in b'ment: Nov/12 BD: Dec 2/12 asked me begin to move end of Jan/13 moved Jan 7/13 (left my stuff) "agreed" to "working on r" Mar 3/13(lipservice!)
Answering Questions/Addressing Comments from Wonkaland Class
Eric: Horoscopes...Virgo...Mystery Music in the Background. Sounds like a perfect sit-com show! Go ahead and write a screenplay.
Although you are a very practical, no-nonsense person who doesn’t always tune in to such things,
Got this part right...fits a Cappy to a T!
you would be wise to keep a notepad by your desk to write down whatever messages come to you nocturnally. A problem or mystery has been on your mind, and where these has been confusion there will soon be clarity – if you pay attention to the message that the universe is sending you.
WTH!? Ok. I'll give this a shot. The other night I had this dream where myself, Ms. Wonka and her sister were all naked with each person sitting in each other's lap with arms draped around each other's shoulders in a sequential order (me, Ms. Wonka on mine with her back to me, then SIL on Ms. Wonka). Now you tell me how the heck I am supposed to interpret and/or pay attention to the "message" in this particular dream. Another problem is I am unable to recall those dreams pretty much on a frequent basis...all I know is that Ms. Wonka popped in them when I wake up. And that drives me batty.
AJ: Did I scare you away with my "old, bald" comments? Don't be a stranger! I miss seeing your tartan bowtie around here.
You have unfinished business with her; you didn't with the other GF's. That may be part of the reason for doing this now and why she is in your dreams and thoughts. I don't doubt she was and will remain a special person in your life whether she chooses to assist (I suspect she will) or not.
Doesn't a divorce fall into the realm of "unfinished" business when there's a WAS/LBs dynamic playing out? A part of me thinks 'why' this "unfinished" business is still lingering is largely due to our hearts being connected that transcends all pain, confusion, anger, sorrow, time and space. I could be close to the 'truth' or be dead wrong here.
I just don't want you to stop walking this part of your journey if she isn't on board right now. Know what I mean?
Absolutely. It would be a real gift if Ms. Wonka elects to participate in the healing process. If not, I am okay with it. Either way, I am comfortable with who I am and how I've changed over the years to a more mellow person. Perhaps it is due to age...dunno.
Raine: Hiya...you dig bald men?? Who knew?
I just have a difficult time coming to terms with the fact that I'm just too old for some men.
That makes the two of us. Aw shoot, I've already eliminated half of the population as it is.
Bea, Heather, Job, Magic & Bright: Thank you for the good wishes along with your fingers, toes and hairs crossed on our behalf.
WTH!? Ok. I'll give this a shot. The other night I had this dream where myself, Ms. Wonka and her sister were all naked with each person sitting in each other's lap with arms draped around each other's shoulders in a sequential order (me, Ms. Wonka on mine with her back to me, then SIL on Ms. Wonka). Now you tell me how the heck I am supposed to interpret and/or pay attention to the "message" in this particular dream. Another problem is I am unable to recall those dreams pretty much on a frequent basis...all I know is that Ms. Wonka popped in them when I wake up. And that drives me batty.
Wonka, focus on the feelings you had during the dream? Were you embarrassed, excited, feel safe???
I think the order you were sitting is interesting. You were the base and you were all naked so vulnerable?? Did you feel uncomfortable or vulnerable? Or, did you feel safe and loved?
"You know, it's times like these when I realize what a superhero I am." Tony Stark/Iron Man
“Focus on what you can do, then do it with all your heart.” Lois Wilson
Do you remember if there was any reason behind sitting like that?
Ms. Wonka was naked but not a vulnerable as she would be if she had been facing you. Her back seems to say that you sense she still has some defenses up AND someone else is sitting on HER lap. She is on YOUR lap, but someone else is sitting on hers. And, you are holding the weight of them both. You are carrying Ms. W and another person on your person and you are completely vulnerable without having your back to them. You are exposed.
The SIL could really represent Ms. W's wife/GF or some significant other that's not you but someone SHE sees as family.
"You know, it's times like these when I realize what a superhero I am." Tony Stark/Iron Man
“Focus on what you can do, then do it with all your heart.” Lois Wilson
