Maybe I can find another closet to clean out... LOL
Actually, the front room is still very much in need of clearing out. The more I get rid of the visual reminders that I was in the middle of a move when BD happened, the better I feel.
I've already told you MH, there's plenty of decluttering at my place if you're really stuck LOL
Both 50 S14 M 16 yrs (his 3rd; my 1st)
ILYBINILWY - 24 Dec 2012 H moved out - 27 Jun 2013 Legally separated - 6 Sep 2013 Closing the door and changing the locks
Great title NQ The same goes for me as well MH, there's plenty to do over here as well I know that when I spent half my day searching for xmas table decs, napkins, etc. lol. I thought to myself, I must have a clear out next year Pud, maybe you're right about the PMA, I never thought about it before. I was talking to my friend about my H tonight and she thinks he's being nice and doing things around the house because he doesn't feel threatened anymore. I never looked at it like that before either, he may have thought that if he does nice things for me then I might think he's coming back home. He's probably noticed how detached I am now. It all makes complete sense Maybe that's how your H is starting to see you as well NQ I don't think they like it when they realise that we're in control of our own lives
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
Well, I found out yesterday that according to the rumour mill I am divorced and have been since last summer. News to me as I don't remember signing D papers !
Didn't get a chance to fully set the record straight or to find out where that info came from as we were in the bank and the other person's turn came up. And it's not the first time I've heard that rumour either so it looks like H may have been justifying his actions by telling people that we're D'd.
As far as I'm concerned he made his bed, let him lie in it. The truth will out and his friends will have to decide whether they want to continue to allow him to lie to them and everyone else or whether they will walk away from it. What goes round, comes round and karma has a way of catching up with people.
Both 50 S14 M 16 yrs (his 3rd; my 1st)
ILYBINILWY - 24 Dec 2012 H moved out - 27 Jun 2013 Legally separated - 6 Sep 2013 Closing the door and changing the locks
Well he can't lie forever, he will mess up at some point. I agree, he is trying to justify his actions with the OW by telling everyone that it's ok because he's d. Yu are probably the b**ch in this M, he does it to make himself look right in people's eyes. My H is the same, he hates it if I tell people the truth as it makes him look like the bad guy. I can't lie as eventually the truth comes out. I did lie to my parents on the day H left, but that was to protect me from getting told off for not telling them sooner. Well, you may as well go out now and act as if you are D, lol. I hope you're ok about it and that it didn't upset you.
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
Don't worry TTD, it didn't upset me. I'm not going to lower myself to his level though by acting as if I'm D'd. Until the paperwork is signed I am still married, even if only on paper.
It be may an incentive though to cut the strings. I'm definitely going to have to consider my options.
Both 50 S14 M 16 yrs (his 3rd; my 1st)
ILYBINILWY - 24 Dec 2012 H moved out - 27 Jun 2013 Legally separated - 6 Sep 2013 Closing the door and changing the locks
I see you're updated your signature When I said act as if you were D'd, I was half joking but there's no reason why you can't flirt a little
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
I know you were joking TTD ; there are others reading these threads that might not though. I agree, flirting is fine (it's good for the PMA) as long as both parties know it is only flirting; so is dreaming LOL . But that will be as far as anything goes for now.
H has 6 months before he can actually obtain a D unless he pushes for it quicker, but he knows that will mean having me file on grounds of adultery and naming OW which he has specifically said he doesn't want. The ball on a D remains in his court.
Both 50 S14 M 16 yrs (his 3rd; my 1st)
ILYBINILWY - 24 Dec 2012 H moved out - 27 Jun 2013 Legally separated - 6 Sep 2013 Closing the door and changing the locks
I'm still in no rush to get a D either. I'm leaving that to H. I've a friend who's been living with someone else for the past 5 years or so and she's still not D! She says it costs too much. The only reason I would want a D would be if I planned to remarry and as that is not on the cards then I'm prepared to wait a while Of course H may want to marry, though I think the EA/PA has fizzled out now! Not 100% sure on that, I've just got the impression that it has. I can't see her wanting someone who's in debt and depressed in her life.
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
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