That's really good that you've come such a long way Time IS a great healer Have a fab Christmas! (((hugs)))
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
Wow! What a positive message and so, so much better than the "present" you got last year! What a wonderful gift is time.... we don't believe it until we look back from a milestone event and see just how far we've come.
My son and I had a wonderful Christmas Day . He was so surprised by the gift from "my anonymous fairy godmother" which is all I'll tell him about where it came from - that he just about burst into tears. And of course I didn't see much of him for the rest of the day.
H texted S13 yesterday to say Merry Christmas, and was told about the xBox. I half-expected to get a text asking why I hadn't mentioned it to H. I'm sure I'll get an earful when I drop S13 off in a little while - he's spending the day with his dad. H is going to be told the exact same thing as S13 - that I was handed a box just as I left work on Tuesday, told to wrap it and mark it from me. If he doesn't like it, tough.
I didn't hear from H or MIL yesterday - guess I'll be saving money on a Mother's Day in the future - but I did spend several hours chatting online to friends. And those conversations were much more enjoyable than any I've had with my H in a very long time. It is so nice to have a conversation with someone who actually uses words of more than one syllable .
Both 50 S14 M 16 yrs (his 3rd; my 1st)
ILYBINILWY - 24 Dec 2012 H moved out - 27 Jun 2013 Legally separated - 6 Sep 2013 Closing the door and changing the locks
lol, it is nice to have a decent conversation It's even better when you're listened to When I have a conversation with my wish list, I think crikey! he's actually listening to what I'm saying, lol. He's done this a few times now and it still shocks me, lol. Hope your H will be ok with you today I did have a call from MIL, she has said to me in the past that I'm still her DIL. Just that we're not as close as we used to be, we still can't talk about the sitch and yes you're right I don't know what H has been saying to her! Have a great day today Speak to you later
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
It's a bit of a shock when someone actually listens to you after months of that not happening - a nice shock, but still a shock . I could very easily get used to it - shame the conversations are only online though.
Anyway, dropped S13 off to H and not one word mentioned about the xBox until S13 brought it up. No questions at all. S13 did tell him that I wouldn't say who at work had handed me the box but he keeps going on about writing a card that says "Dear Anonymous, thank you very, very much for the xBox".
H also asked if it would be okay if the three of us went out for dinner on S13's birthday next week. Well that's a change of attitude. H has arranged to work the early shift. Still no mention of the following Sunday though I'm sure that will come up at some point and he's going to say that he's not coming round that day because he's got a birthday to go to.
He asked if he had any Jack Daniels left at the house and if so, could we bring it with us as he'd run out, which means he's been drinking heavily again. He just seemed empty and sad today. No change of heart on my part - I'm still not that sure I want him back in my life and no sad, depressed routine by him will change that.
Both 50 S14 M 16 yrs (his 3rd; my 1st)
ILYBINILWY - 24 Dec 2012 H moved out - 27 Jun 2013 Legally separated - 6 Sep 2013 Closing the door and changing the locks
I hope it's only because it's Christmas and he hasn't started drinking again! H asked me if we've still got that expensive red wine that he bought last Christmas. I said we hadn't, but I don't know where it's gone as I don't drink red wine. He must've drank it last year without thinking. I don't remember either, but I'm sure he did Good news on the change of heart for your son's birthday I agree about the empty and sad, that's how H looked to me. As you know I'm not sure that I want my H back in my life either, at least not this depressed one. He will need to change his life around first Don't worry about Sunday, the way I see it now is that if H did have anyone he wouldn't want to come back and that suits me just fine I hope my cheerful mood keeps up, even if nothing works out with my wish list He will go on about your son writing the card because it's in the MLC script, lol. My son was writing H's card yesterday and he said "dad said I've to do all the writing at the bottom of the card but I don't want to!" He wanted to put "To Dad" at the top of the card. It's how he's always done it. I said to him to just write the card how he wants to write it. Just goes to show, however much I think he's out of this MLC tunnel, he can still say some weird things, lol.
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
My H is driving me nuts today. I don't hear anything from him for days. He has only texted S13. He just won't shut up today - every two minutes I'm getting yet another text from him. Grrrrr!
Both 50 S14 M 16 yrs (his 3rd; my 1st)
ILYBINILWY - 24 Dec 2012 H moved out - 27 Jun 2013 Legally separated - 6 Sep 2013 Closing the door and changing the locks
Time IS a great healer 