I am so sorry for you. My opinion is the OM will not last. It is a relationship built of shaky and dirty ground. Plus they have had an affair together and they will never ever be able to trust one another and that my friend leads to a very ugly relationship.
Time is your friend here. Be patient. Be the father your daughter needs you to be.
I am so sorry for you. My opinion is the OM will not last. It is a relationship built of shaky and dirty ground. Plus they have had an affair together and they will never ever be able to trust one another and that my friend leads to a very ugly relationship.
Time is your friend here. Be patient. Be the father your daughter needs you to be.
Thank you, dustmeoff. You are so kind.
Actually she is not with him. She lives with her parents. I guess she meant that her heart belongs to the OM, but her mind tells her it is wrong. She doesn't believe neither him nor me.
This priceless advice: "Time is your friend here. Be patient. Be the father your daughter needs you to be."
I have to memorize it very well, and repeat it every day in my prayers.
Her parents bought big and luxurious house at the seaside with private beach. They set off with our daughter on Sunday, they will spend one week at the seaside. Then my ex with a female friend of hers will arrive and will take care for our D. Three of them will spend one more week at the house. My ex offered me to go there and spend the third week with our girl. But I have to borrow some money because I ran out of finances.
I've already spent 5 days with our D at their seaside flat.
What do you think, is it courteous to accept the invitation even though I will enter into debt?
I sent her a letter and she answered. It was about our past.
An hour ago we finished a phone call which continued 1,30h.
She told me that most of my writings are lies. She reminded me about my rudeness.
I listed my sins and my rudeness here in order never to forget them, but I deleted, because I am ashamed of myself.
God, I was a terrible man. I am still terrible person. I have to live with this guilt.
Still she wanted me to be near them. Despite my aggressiveness she still loves me as the father of her child.
She brought me dark chocolate from Paris. She knows that I adore it.
Now I know that our life was a big mistake. I ruined her best years from 16 to 30. She wanted to have family and got only sorrow from me. I lied her that I love her and only used the power of her love for my advantage.
I must never call or e-mail her or attempt going back in her life. If she needs my help I have to be there, nothing more.
Strangely or not, she called me today and invited me to have lunch together. We talked and had quality time. She hinted in the conversation that she is willing to participate in our tennis lessons.
Apparently she acts strangely. Yesterday she called me from the beach 400km away and asked me to order her brand of toothpaste because she is going to run out of it in few weeks. Today she phoned me again from the beach. She informed me that our daughter will return on Saturday and not take her with me because she needs to see her.
In the beginning of the last week we talked on the phone for 22-30 minutes and she asked for my help for arranging her flat after the repairs that workers have done there.
All of this is happening just 1 or 2 months after her telling me that she still loves the OM and doesn't believe me that I can change myself.
Two days ago she phoned me and ask me to keep my mobile near me and not to silence the ringing. Her parents and our girl are at their seaside house abroad. So she was afraid to sleep alone in the big empty house in the mountain. She wanted to rely on me if something bad happened while alone during the night.
This morning she called again. We talked about the new school of our daughter and other things. She offered me to accompany her during her shopping for new furniture for the flat. As you remember she made repairs and full refreshment. I proposed to call me tomorrow morning to coordinate the trip :))))))))))
Today we talked and I got her angry because I blamed her about something insignificant. She raised her voice but I quickly calmed her down. However I realized that she doesn't intend to shorten the distance between us. Most likely she wanted to break the boredom.
