This is good news. You are ready to move forward. I am confident that you can learn how to feed a cat. Just out of curiosity, what is your custody arrangement and where is your W going to move?
Her original plan was to get the money from me, get a small mortgage from the bank and buy a house where she would live with D 12. I would have D12 alternate weekends but still see her during the week.
W new plan (I heard from D12) is to get the money from me and then move back home with her mother who llives less than a mile from us. If she moves in with her mother she will have no bills to pay, similar to what she has here with me. I fear this new plan will mean that she use the money from me to maintain a lavish life style for her and OM, but hey that’s not my problem.
As W is moving in with her mother I have instructed my solicitor to push for a 50:50 custody arrangement for D12, 50% of her time with me, 50% with MIL, sorry that should be W.
As well as the cat, W believes she can leave a lot of her stuff here(clothes, shoes etc) while she sorts her head out, or eventually buys a house.
I’m at the point now where I’ll do what it takes to get W moving and on her way, her late night comings and goings are really getting to me. I mean I know we are not together but when she goes out I don’t sleep and my mind tries to work out all of the different scenario’s of what she may be doing or who she may be with. If she’s out of here it’s not my worry.
D 12 is also getting upset, she angry that W is out all the time and doesn’t spend time with her, she also told me she heard W on the phone talking to a possible OM#2, she still coming to terms that W is with an OM (but I take OM#2 with a pinch of salt). When I was putting D12 to bed when W went on here latest late night visit to “The Cinema” D12 said “Dad just give her want she wants and let her go”.
That for me is a very powerful push to get things going.
So yes my life starts again when W moves on, all I have to do is make it happen.
I am a lot like you. I never figured out how to detach. Every night my W goes out, it breaks my heart. She is on a 4 day "Business trip" right now. It is a lie, she is really on vacation with some man.
She hasn't called or messaged the kids since Sunday. Somehow, she doesn't think they notice. I know how hurt I am, I can only imagine they feel the same.
I feel your pain. I am happy for you, knowing that you have a fixed time table for when this will be over. I look forward to reading posts from the new Lanzo.
I do ok during the daytime but when I see W dressed up to go out at night my stomach gets all knotted up cos I know roughly where she’s going and exactly what she’s doing and now she’s flaunts it in my face. This weekend I’ll go out for a beer with a co worker to avoid seeing her go out Saturday night. (hopefully she stays out).
Anyway my weekend task is to start to clean up the bathroom in readiness for my new home, the tiles are grotty and the shower leaks downstairs into the kitchen, it another job I’ve left too long. I actually let the bathroom degrade as W was so prim and proper and hated grime, now it seems she can shower anywhere.
So yes I’m looking forward......., I’m focusing on the positives and leaving the negatives behind.
This is a bigger job than I thought, I'm going to put this back as parts of my overall bathroom refurbishment plan (when W has gone.)
W has been sent a letter from my solicitor outlining my financial and custody proposal, that will wake her up as she has been stalling on the D process as she lives in her fantasy land.
ok this bit is for RockJC and Brobafet. OM is not my (our)problem, but I've found a lot about him and all I can say is WTF !!!! (is W playing at) I've been ditched for some one with nothing to offer. Crash and burn when you're in the real world. So yes as positive as I am I still need to know what's going on behind my back.
I had a drink with my co worker, he divorced just as I was hit with my first bomb in 2005, nice relaxed chat.
I have Sunday all to myself D12 is on holiday with friends, W could be anywhere, So I will trust myself to make use of my time wisely.
I have received 2 quite long text messages from the lady I had a date with, they were a bit intense considering we only had one date. Anyhow I had to reply to her letting her know its too early for me to get involved with anyone.
I too am thinking about what I’m looking for, I am starting to realise again that I do have qualities that women will find attractive.
