When the time comes for the procedure, it'd be a good idea to send a friendly text to W wishing her well and you'll be thinking of her. Add that you are rooting for her. Short and simple.
I haven't heard from the W in a week and a half and she is supposed to be having her procedure in the middle of the month. Anybody have thoughts on me texting her to see how she is doing?
I would absolutely check in with her. My W recently had cancer surgery and I suspended being dim and have been reaching out to offer her assistance around her house as well as emotional support. Maybe it's not good DB'ing, but it felt like the right thing to do to me.
ME 38 W 37 T18 M5 D3 BD 1/7/13 PA Conf 2/11/13- Ongoing 2nd simultaneous affair Confirmed 4/19/13 W gets APT and begins transition out 5/29/13 First mediation appt 12/19/13
AnotherStander: Thanks for the input. Any advice on phrasing? Positivespin: Not feeling guilty at all. I'm embarrassed for her that she thought it was something that would be okay to ask.
I am, however, concerned that I haven't heard from her; feeling like reconciliation is less likely and not sure if she was expecting more of a chase from me after she dropped the TRO; and, most of all, concerned for her well-being
'W, just dropping a line to check in on you as I am thinking of you. Hope the procedure went well. I'm rooting for you! If you want to talk, you know where to find me. Take care. Lefty'
I would leave out the "if you want to talk..." but that's personally. I always think, they know where you are and the fact that I am dropping a line says you can get back....
Hopefully she responds with a TY or whatever, then you can open the dialoguea bit more.
Dip your toe, these are tough times for W and I always think we shouldn't lose that piece of us that cares in times like these no matter what the sitch. Like AS, it's simply decent and loving to do so. Just remember to be kind to yourself as well, Lefty
Oy, what a day. Busy, busy day at work and then after work I found out my sister in the hospital, so I drove my Mom over to visit her.
Thank you for the kinds words Wonka & kate's_place. I can feel a little backsliding happening right now inside my head, so I think I will wait until tomorrow at the earliest until texting the W.
Texted the wife late afternoon yesterday, haven't heard back. Don't expect I will.
Last night, my therapist called me an idealist, especially when it comes to relationships. While flattering, I can't help but remember what the world tends to do to idealists. Trying to keep a PMA.
On the agenda for the weekend: run some errands for my mother, visit with a friend who is in town, work on stuff for the non-profit, catch a movie, do some reading.
We idealists tend to get squashed- but i couldnt imagine being anything else. Be proud of that title!!!!!!
What movie will you be watching? What are you reading these days?
Im 191.0 today
...........and do I need to ask if the "Friend" is M or F????? LOL!
ME 38 W 37 T18 M5 D3 BD 1/7/13 PA Conf 2/11/13- Ongoing 2nd simultaneous affair Confirmed 4/19/13 W gets APT and begins transition out 5/29/13 First mediation appt 12/19/13
