On a positive note, w did initiate a Convo last night. About work and my staying late at work these days. I just said I'm really busy and she said she is too. We've talked for a good while.
I remain dark at home and try to avoid where she is at part of the house. And I don't initiate a Convo unless she say something. I'm starting to feel awkward with her. I know I shouldn't but it's happening...she's been pushing me away all this time and now I'm starting to feel numb. Just some observations...
me40; W43 M18; T~20 D18; S13 & S3 bomb 5/9/11 EA busted 4/30/12; 9/4/12; 4/29/13; 6/10/13 same OM
Separated 4/1/14
"Even a flicker of light will shine through darkness-12/25/2012"....better days ahead.
I'll wish you a happy birthday Newman…Happy Birthday! 🎉
Have a great day! It's early yet, your D has the whole day ahead of her to make that wish.
Standing for your marriage is admirable & not easy. I know some days are harder than others, it just stinks that days like today (your bday) have to be the hard ones.
Thanks! Yep I'm getting used to this in it..the first bomb went off on my bday. Oh well.
me40; W43 M18; T~20 D18; S13 & S3 bomb 5/9/11 EA busted 4/30/12; 9/4/12; 4/29/13; 6/10/13 same OM
Separated 4/1/14
"Even a flicker of light will shine through darkness-12/25/2012"....better days ahead.
M46,W41 D16,D18 M22,T25 BD 11/12 W moved out 01/13 Piecing 10/13 Divorced 01/15 "Whether you worry or not has no affect on the outcome. But, moving forward, letting go, and making changes can." UrWorthy
Hate to hijack, but Sandi2 if your there can you look on my thread, I have an issue I really would like your thoughts on.
M46,W41 D16,D18 M22,T25 BD 11/12 W moved out 01/13 Piecing 10/13 Divorced 01/15 "Whether you worry or not has no affect on the outcome. But, moving forward, letting go, and making changes can." UrWorthy
Me-48,W-51 M-22,T-24 S- 18,16,9 Feb-Jul '11 Away from Home, after initial B date Aug-Dec '11 Back at Home on couch Dec '11-now Same bedroom, room mates only Dec '14 W files initial D paperwork
Thanks! Yep I'm getting used to this in it..the first bomb went off on my bday. Oh well.
Aren't we the lucky ones!! BD was a few days after my birthday, but my last birthday is what caused the storm that led to BD. Well here's to your bday this year being a better one, go out and do something for yourself! Have a beer with buddies, shoot some pool, go to a movie, go buy some new clothes, do something
AS, we're so special lol!!!...oh guess when I found out the EA, yep the following year days before my bday. I'm sure you seen my sig.
JP, semperfi--thanks ! JP don't worry about the hijack. Btw I saw a little of ur sitch, your OM sitch is same as mine..w childhood friend then now popped in saying he looked for her blah blah crap BS!
Leo thanks man. You know good question. The thing is I don't think I have something to gain being in limbo. But for some reason I chose to I suppose for the kids I'm such a softie when it comes to them. And I've been wanting to get off limbo before 2013. I did let go of my W in my recent sitch but she wouldn't. Leo did you file in your sitch? I want to hear more about your thoughts about your question. It's just lately I'm thinking of filing myself. It's just the last sitch I found proof she's still in EA, I just won't live with someone who cheats me. I deserve better than that...also why would I live with someone who doesn't love me? I'm starting to value myself. I know I'm not there yet but I'm starting to realize.
Ok update: I got to work and everyone knew it was my bday, I couldn't hide . Then D18 called me wish me and wanted to take me to dinner. Then late in pm W called me wish me and even got me a little present--I was so shock ! So we all went to dinner. Oh and recall I was gonna plan something this weekend, well I did booked a hotel 2 hrs away and w will even join us. Nothing to get excited about its within the norm. I had a great day afterall.
And of course thanks to all of you that wish me.
Newman
me40; W43 M18; T~20 D18; S13 & S3 bomb 5/9/11 EA busted 4/30/12; 9/4/12; 4/29/13; 6/10/13 same OM
Separated 4/1/14
"Even a flicker of light will shine through darkness-12/25/2012"....better days ahead.
Ok update: I got to work and everyone knew it was my bday, I couldn't hide . Then D18 called me wish me and wanted to take me to dinner. Then late in pm W called me wish me and even got me a little present--I was so shock ! So we all went to dinner. Oh and recall I was gonna plan something this weekend, well I did booked a hotel 2 hrs away and w will even join us. Nothing to get excited about its within the norm. I had a great day afterall.
That's awesome! When you go in with no expectations there's no place to go but "up" from there
