Don't let him make you do anything you don't want to do. If he has been with OW you may want him to be tested before you do anything with him. Protect yourself!
M: 29, H: 31 D: 9 S: 8 T: 13 Y M: 9 Y ILYBIDKIILWY 12/09/2012 ~~~~ Worrying does not empty tomorrow of its troubles. ~~~ it Emptys today of its strengths
Its a tough one Shelby..I like the idea of dating for a while to see where it leads. You may discover he is not who you think he is. Things may become clearer early on and your decision will be made.
I will be interested to see where he goes from here. Good luck, keep cool and look after yourself.
When he first left I fought the urge to text him, message him. Ect. Trying to get answers. I did occasionally but I fought the urge more often.
I haven't had that need in so long. But now I feel like I am pulled back into this vicious cycle of wanting to message him often. So I can try to figure out where he is coming from and what he is thinking.
I haven't sent a text or message yet, but I want to so bad. But then again this has been going on for 2 years. Does it really matter any more ? Do I still have to play this game ?
Ugh. Just frustrated today !
Me:43 H:43 T:20 YRS M:15 YRS Bomb: 6/9/08 Bomb#2 7/6/10 Served with papers at work 7/13/10 DD:14, DD:11
He says his silence is because " I've been very stressed on the decisions I have to make" and while I know that is true and I originally said I would step back and let him figure it out. I also feel as though I am being sucked back into this game. And here I am again waiting for him to chose.
Is it fair to tell him that, that while I understand he is stressed I also feel like I am back in this game and that i feel like he fished to see if I was still interested. And when he found out i was willing to try and work on it, he pulled back again, and that it is really a simple choice... Either you want to work on us or you don't.
Should I say anything like that or should I just tell myself that and then continue GALing while he figures himself out ?
Hope I made sense. Thank you.
Me:43 H:43 T:20 YRS M:15 YRS Bomb: 6/9/08 Bomb#2 7/6/10 Served with papers at work 7/13/10 DD:14, DD:11
He says his silence is because " I've been very stressed on the decisions I have to make" and while I know that is true and I originally said I would step back and let him figure it out. I also feel as though I am being sucked back into this game. And here I am again waiting for him to chose.
Is it fair to tell him that, that while I understand he is stressed I also feel like I am back in this game and that i feel like he fished to see if I was still interested. And when he found out i was willing to try and work on it, he pulled back again, and that it is really a simple choice... Either you want to work on us or you don't.
Should I say anything like that or should I just tell myself that and then continue GALing while he figures himself out ?
Hope I made sense. Thank you.
Go about your life as you have been. Let him pursue YOU.
You’re not waiting for him to choose, you’re waiting to decide what YOU choose. I really think it would be bad to jump back in here. WAIT, and see where he is down the road. If you must tell him something, just say you’re not sure yet. Give him a chance to show his true colors.
M: A really long time. Crisis: 5 years. She's still worth it.
Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose. -Viktor Frankl
Thank you both. I think I just needed that 2x4 to put my head back on right. I feel like I did 2 years ago, again.
Your right.
I haven't really seen any change from him. He talks the talk, but he's not walking it...yet.
Do I want him back ? I honestly don't know. I don't want the old H back but if has learned and has changed. Then I am willing to work with him to see if we can get back together.
I need to keep working on me and put him and this situation out of My mind again.
Me:43 H:43 T:20 YRS M:15 YRS Bomb: 6/9/08 Bomb#2 7/6/10 Served with papers at work 7/13/10 DD:14, DD:11
