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I was talking with son on the phone tonight and W wanted to talk with me right before I got off the phone. W wanted to talk finances and I said “now’s not a good time, can we talk tomorrow between 12:00 and 1:00?” Her reply was "yea, that’s fine". I could tell she was pissed, oh well.

Let the barbs begin, she immediately shot off a text in anger saying, “I hope you enjoy whoever you’re with, I’ve had sex too”. I won’t reply but it hurts, and it’s confirming what I already thought. I have remained loyal so far, I am committed but to finally get the confirmation really hurts!!!! That’s EXACTLY what she was trying to do. I could really use some input from my DB friends out there, I know a lot of you have experienced!! Denver, I think you even caught the OM in your house!,Acc, I know youve been there. AT, you ran into the SOB, Arsene, the bas!tard drops your W off at your place. Anyway, I am not going to reply to W. There’s NO WAY that I will show that she’s got under my skin! Thanks in advance for any input, this [censored]!

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To my mind, that text doesn't even deserve a response. Totally mean and spiteful. Be better than that because we know you are.

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I agree, thanks a lot unbidden! I am going to take the high road. I pray and I know the Lord will help me through this.

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I dont have an appointment to see a new IC for a couple. How do some of you work through this kind of stuff?

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for a couple weeks.

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Since you're a believer, have a conversation with God. You'd be surprised when you just start talking.


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Emotion, yet peace.
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Rough,

I'm so sorry to hear that. First, I'd say that it might just be to piss you off. To shake your cage. Remember, "Believe none of what they say".

On the other hand, since it is a possibility. Decide how you feel about it. Is this a deal breaker? Can you live with this? Can you live pass this? Can you find it within yourself to one day forgive her(I mean totally forgive her)? I'd take what time you need to answer these questions before going any further. Your answer to these might tell you what your course of action is. I still would try to get some sort of confirmation before doing anything rash.

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To my mind, that text doesn't even deserve a response. Totally mean and spiteful. Be better than that because we know you are.


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Bond, Arsene, thank you so much. You both bring up very valid points which I REALLY appreciate. I just need to try and go to bed, this is really hard Sh!t to deal with right now, thanks a lot my friends!

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I just dont know WHY i am being tested like this. Scratch that, I do probably know why, I didnt meet my W's needs. This is sp ard my friends, I hope I can meet with my pastor and get some input from my friends on this board. I must work through this. This is a topic that i have never faced, full force, and it's in front of me right now.

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Sorry, I forgot to edit. Just really hard for me.

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