Thank you Busting and SS!!! I am going to work tomorrow because after work I'm going out with the girl who is getting married in a week. Sort of a last (single) girls night out! I'm going to have fun!
who else on this site has their own catch phrase "What would Brit do?"
and i think you were AMAZING tonight.. to handle the conversation with so much strength and grace. i do not know how you did it.
his rush speaks volumes.... yes, it is one more day on the crazy train and no one knows where it is really headed... time for him to realize that he alone is driving it. i think you did a great job stepping off of it tonight..
tonight, sit with us on the blanket.. we are doing shots tonight.. all of us together... love you, brit.
Me(f): 51 W: 41 DP:8 M:3 T:10 "W not happy" 7/11 D final: 8/13
I woke this morning feeling really really good. I had a smile on my face and I remembered what had happened and I took a moment and thought about how much I love my life. I love how I acted in that situation. I love that I finally got to say I had the courage and strength to say let's look at our relationship I'm not who I was before and I'm happy about that. I am happy that I have learned to be still. When he was talking about all that stuff they'd looked into I just thought that doesn't really concern me. I am not worried about divorce proceedings or your visa. I'm off that crazy train (as Grace said) I'm happy that i've grown enough and matured enough to know that getting remarried isn't "success" I am happy whether I find someone in a few months or a few years. And I'm glad we talked about our friendship maybe we can be friends now that i've cleared him up on the idea that I'm not sitting at home pining for him
Good morning Brit! I am so happy to read you feel good today. :-)
I think knowing that we handled ourselves with courage strength, calm and compassion makes a world of difference no matter what we are facing. And I think thats where true beauty grows from. And I know you are beautiful!
This is another step in the forward direction. Which direction exactly, time will tell.
I hope you have a Good day at work today and drinks afterwards. Is the weekend...bottom's up!
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TPS Me: 44 H: 42 M14 T17 S10 D7 10/10 H moves out after death of his father-same month 21/04/12 H is 'DONE' 04/05/12 OW/PA confirmed (rumors from 2010) July '14 H ends affair May '15 H moves back home
Thank you Busting!!!! Nice to have someone in my time zone or at least part of the world!!!
I agree 100% it's the first time I put a big DB principle in place and didn't freak out.
Zig was so right I let myself be upset and then the recovery was much quicker. Last night I said I wish I were more detached but again I look at how I handled May and I look at how I handled August and I'm so proud. I did so much better. I didn't indulge my pain and I didn't make him feel like what I was feeling was his fault. I think it's very egotistical to say this is how I'm feeling and you have to know every bit of it and feel it. Why? It's not his pain. He's allowed to live his life without thinking about how anyone else will react to his decisions the same way I am. He's not responsible for my happiness and I'm not responsible for his.
I am so ready to let love into my life.
And don't worry I'm not rushing things with Mr Strawberry I haven't seen him for a week and will see him next Friday. I think if I met a guy and he wanted to see me 2 or 3 times a week it would be too quick. He and I text maybe once a day but it's not sappy or flirty its friendly and I like that. I am not in a hurry to get someone into my life. In the past I might have analysed everything and thought 3 steps ahead, compared him to H etc all to distract and make myself feel better.
It is hard sometimes to see our growth unless we do what you did, remember how we handled things in the past and contrast that with how we do now.
and to know that you did this...met all these uncomfortable feelings head on, without running to someone or something else to take them away or avoid them...but met them head on and decided to take the difficult path and grow strong enough to get through them on your own.
that is something you take with you...for the rest of your life.
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Me(f): 51 W: 41 DP:8 M:3 T:10 "W not happy" 7/11 D final: 8/13
So here's my life..... � Yesterday he told me that a colleague was cleaning out his mum's house (she died) and she had this gorgeous little kitchen gadget from the 70s that he knew I would love. He said I like it but I don't need it and I know you'd love it. And I said well only if you're sure. � Today he texted me a picture of it and said do you want it. I said yes if you're sure. It's so cute. So he said he'd come by and drop it off after work. I told him I be home between x times but that I was going out with friends tonight in the city where he now lives. � I got home (a bit later than I'd said) and his car was out front. So I go in we chat he shows me thing explains it will need rewiring. I say won't you do that for me. He's says you're a smart girl. I said I'll get X to do it, he's a trained electrician. He said who's that your new man? (meow) I said: no my co-worker you�ve met him?? Then he says I can�t hang about. GF was meant to be doing something until 10 but she broke her hand. She sent me a pic of it all mangled. I said so is she at the hospital He says no she's at home waiting for me to take her to the hospital. And I go well why are you still here LOL and he goes I thought I'd offer you a ride. (!!!!!!!!) so I say make sure you don't tell her you kept her waiting with a broken hand because you were at your wife's house!!! He went to use the loo and I got changed. I was wearing a skimpy sundress and knew I looked hot. LOL so we talked and stuff it was all pretty breezy. He couldn't decide whether or not to go somewhere with her in a couple of weeks I was like do what you want. I told him a few stories about work etc and I said it made me really happy when x happened and he said kind of quietly you should be. We were almost to where he was going to drop me off and he said its a bit like old times I didn't really know what to say so I made a joke and was like do you need a minute are you reminiscing? �And he laughed. He said goodbye told me to have a good time and to tell my friend who is getting married congrats from him he always liked her. I said okay and thank you for the ride and then I said hope GF's hand Is okay guess that means no (censored) for you for a bit and he said you know me I was never into that (he was never in s@x full stop but anyway......) I said are you freaking kidding me? You loved that! He was like really? Maybe I should try that again. (at this point I'm leaning into the passengers side window) and I just said I don't want to hear about it but trust me I know what you like and walked off!�(now I disn't want to be crude but thought it was important that you guys know this convo happened. Discussing s@x? Like that?
No DBers I don't know what my deal is either and maybe I should sort that out. At the moment post D convo with H I feel more free. I am who I am and he knows who that is. I'm fun I'm flirty and I'm slightly entitled. On the car ride, He made fun of me because I was talking about a hotel work put me in once and he imitated a valley girl accent. But that's who I am and what he loved I am girly and fun. I'm tough but like to be pampered.� Nothing's changed it's just more spinning top I'm still on the blanket and now I'm not really minding my p's and q's on said blanket!� And tonight's drink is rum!
Brit I don't know what's going on with all of our S's these past few days, I almost want to plunk down some cash to see if good old Cainer has the answers you sound better today, definitely. Him not going to her with her hand situation = ?????????!!!!!!!
you sound better today, definitely. Him not going to her with her hand situation = ?????????!!!!!!!