I am me. There is no one else I can be - that was my unknown. DestinyUnknown
I have consumed and digested negativity, fear, anxiety, and abandonment. I have sought, bought, and sold my soul for the love of others. I have been I am solely responsible for all my actions.
I call it my reflection, recall, guilt, anger, and pain. There is nothing greater in all of us than compassion, something I have never really exhibited towards anyone because of how I felt. I wasn't sure if I ever wanted to post again because of all that has happened. However, I am grateful to those of you here.
I am Not sure of next steps for me, but in the words of Billy Joel, This Is My Life - Leave Me Alone".
Your post absolutely made my day!! So very glad to hear from you and praying that you can feel the genuine care, love, and true understanding that exists here.
Irish
M-48/XH-48 M=25/T=28 years Ds-24,22/S-18 D - 3/11 A Day at a Time
Destiny, I'm glad to see that you returned to post.
Please take life one day at a time, one step at a time. Tackle each problem separately and please do not try to tackle all of them at once. The hurdles will get easier if you tackle each one separately.
Take care of yourself.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
Destiny, perfection doesn't exist. We are who we are. We care about others and we don't about others. Others care about us and others don't. Surround yourself with others that accept YOU, the YOU you are at this moment. With everything happening in your life right now, the right people would be there to support and listen to what you have to say. They would make you laugh, they would give you a tender shoulder for your tears and they would show you what life could bring on the outside of our gray area.
You had reached your rock bottom. Now, get mad, get clening on stressers and build the life that YOU WANT to live. It takes time but IT'S WORTH IT!!!!
Glad to hear from you. Have a nice, NICE, AMAZING day!
I just returned from a trip to OKC. OKC is a great place, but it was rather windy. I am going to address all my challenges - the first getting the big D.
The next is getting a new job!! I am rather ok right now where I am because I have to make money to support myself. I am journaling the events at work for HR purposes. While it ails me to go to work everyday, I will make some changes starting with sticking to my normal work schedule and not ghosting hours (very stressful).
My family situation is last because they are in another state and I am setting more boundaries with them.
I just returned from a visit with my IC. Good session ans she even said to me that she has learned more about me in the last 3 weeks than in the entire 2 years I have been seeing her. She wants to start an EMDR therapy with me. I have to read up more on this, but she believes it will help me focus on the years of my past and current tramatic events. Has anyone ever heard of this?
OLD THREAD-http://tinyurl.com/y98nuty Me 44 H 51 T 15 yrs M 9+ yrs No Kids "You may be deceived if you trust too much, but you will live in torment unless you trust enough."
Hi Destiny. Yes EMDR is very effective in dealing with traumatic events. I am not trained in it but I know it has to do with eye movement. It may seem strange at first but it really works. Give it a go You will benefit from it.
M 53 D 20 Separated 6/22/11 moved out 10/24 Together 26 yrs Married 16 W Filed for D 7/21/11 Served 9/6/11 D final 8/28/12
“Failure is not fatal, but failure to change might be.”
I am trained in EMDR. It is a therapy that uses your eye movement to produce a bilateral stimulation in your brain, which effectively helps you to desensitize your body to Post Traumatic Stress Symptoms and lets your brain process through past trauma.
It really is a remarkable process and has been highly effective.
Good luck in your therapy!
M:35 W:33 M: 5 yrs. Daughter: 2 yr .7/11/10 D Final: 8/7/12
I just received a post from someone that said you are also married to the military and could possibly have a similar situation. I was just wondering if you have any insight for me. My post is under newcomers...husband just left me.
Thanks!
M: 27 H: 28 T: 8 yrs M: 6 yrs Sep: 2/18/12 (I have no feelings for you!) EA/PA Uncovered: 2/26/12 H introduces OW to his fam: June H moves ALL stuff out: July
I have been away for a while as I am going through individual therapy. Just decided to sign on this evening to get updated on posts. I will stop by your post this evening. Hang in there. I have been to the depths of sorrow to happiness and back. I am working my my back now.
Hi DBers. My therapy is going really well, but it is still a little "scary" to unload the specifics and allow my therapist so much into "my world". But the one thing I am learning is that is okay to seek this kind of support - I have been about the words and not about the actions for a long time. It is not only getting my very own life, but living it. I am now going through my 5th week of EMDR.
My work life is just that - work. I am really trying not to take work home with me and have discussed possible actions to bring against my supervisor. I realize that I have been so concerned about how everyone else would "view" me; so I just taken the "abuse".
Not much to say about H. I really have not seen much of him.
Thank you for listening.
OLD THREAD-http://tinyurl.com/y98nuty Me 44 H 51 T 15 yrs M 9+ yrs No Kids "You may be deceived if you trust too much, but you will live in torment unless you trust enough."
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