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Originally Posted By: Monkey
I think I am going to go ahead and ask her to sign the D papers this week and file.


To quote one of my great friends on here and who said the same words to me when I thought I was done:

"Is this the hill you're going to die on?"

I can only echo what has been said to you. Believe me I know the feelings well.

BUT

I would challenge and say are you doing this because you are tired or any other reason that is a failure to who you want to be?

I can tell you I learned the most in my difficult hours. From those hills I decided to climb.

The really good stuff happened when I was detached completely and wasn't ruled by emotions.

No regrets. No walking away because of what someone did or did not do for you or to you.

When you reach the top of THAT hill you will know it.


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Sorry Monk- I say sit on this for a couple days. In my opinion you should make this decision from a place of love and acceptance, not from anger and frustration.

Best to u!!


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((((( )))))

whatever you need...


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Hope you're feeling better today! ((Mnky))


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My heart is breaking for you, my friend. Literally breaking. Thinking of you and praying for you. Big hugs....


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Any new developments? Did you ask her to sign the papers?


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Originally Posted By: Grmpy_Mnky
Can she sense that I’m ready for this to be over?


I know I am late to the game, here...

But can YOU sense... that SHE is not ready for this to be over?

You will make your choices... and she will make hers... and sometimes...

This chit happens and people think they are done, only to realize that even if we might be done... THEY... aren't...

It ain't over until you say it's over. And you can make it over by moving on and never looking back...

but she'll always be there... and she'll poke and prod you until she is done...

until then... she ain't done and that means... in some ways... you ain't done, either...

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Mnky KD^^^^^making some sense won't u say?


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Whaddup Monk?


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Hey Grmpy,

Been right there with you man, have had the same blow up conversation multiple times with the same ride home. If you are fully confident in your decision is the best for you, you know everyone is here to support you, and if you change your mind tomorrow we will support you too. I have been in the same place and know it hurts but know everybody here is thinking about you man. Keep your chin up!


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I filed 8/27, she countered I filed response 9/5
Anxiously waiting on the judge!
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