Thanks, I know something like this is hard to explain, I'm just trying to understand it. Of course, when someone is boring, boorish etc you can know this isn't the person for me. But, to know right away whether someone is "the one" seems kind of strange to me. I've felt intense physical attractions and they are often not the best thing for any relationship. I've dated women who that wasn't there but it grows as we got to know each other. It's just something I hear and read in the profiles and don't quite get. If we "click" makes sense but what does that include. In my mind, if we can talk easily, share, laugh, enjoy our time is that "clicking"? I dunno, maybe it's just such a personal thing that it means something different to each person. Anyway, don't worry I'm not sweating it, just trying to figure out a game I haven't played in a long, long time! In my mind, I was like striking gold for this lady but she didn't see it that way, which is OK. Oh well, onward and upwards!
Actually, things are looking up! This woman only cost me $1.60 for coffee and a little gas money which is far less than my last fiasco cost me! I'm hoping to get to the point where they pay to reject me and I can make some bucks off this! We all need our dreams, don't we! Lol.
Instant chemistry. Yes - I've felt it a few times in my life. When I met Ex, I was crushing badly on a guy in my class. After meeting Ex - I never gave my crush another thought. It was instant for sure!
I met one guy since Ex left that just knocked me off my feet. I fell head over heels instantly. He liked me. We dated. But I don't think he ever felt that real chemistry like I did. And he ended things suddenly when he met someone he felt it with.
I have met guys and felt it - like Gabby said - when it wasn't the right time. So I had to get past it.
With Josh - it was just a little different. It was more like drinking a great champagne. Filled me full of warm bubblies. I remember driving home, singing "This Kiss"(Faith Hill) at the top of my lungs and calling my girlfriend who lives 3,000 miles away to tell her I'd met The One. The right guy. Someone who made my heart sing.
Some people say you can build a great relationship from a great friendship. I'm not so sure. I don't think you can make that "in love" feeling just happen. I don't believe you can look at a person and think "He/she is just perfect for me" then expect it will work out. Because both people have to feel attraction. Sure a young, hot guy would make me feel excited but I'm not so sure the young hottie would find me "his type". LOL!
So then Mr. Woody was right all along! Lol. As I said, I've felt great attractions but I wouldn't call that a "special connection" it's more like lust or infatuation which aren't the best ingredients for a mature, loving relationship. What's special for me is when I feel I can just be myself around someone and it's OK. I felt that with MM and I felt that with STBX before she became Voldy! That's a great feeling to truly believe that someone likes you for just being you and you don't have to be someone else around them. That's a "special connection" in my books anyway. Gotta go, the babes from POF are calling...ah, let 'em wait, it'll make them want me all the more! Lol.
Sorry to digress from this delightful dating discussion but tomorrow I go to my lawyer's to sign the divorce papers. Maybe I'll hit on her too but that would probably cost me more money so forget it.
True enough, KML, true enough. Josh is actually 7 years younger. And I had a thing a few months before I met him with a 30 something hottie on a cruise. Yes - he was gay but he exuded charm and sexuality. Took me dancing every night. Treated me fabulous and OH - the photos! Funny thing is - we are still good friends today. He makes me smile!
