Well, rysmom, I will trade winters with you. I love snow. We got a lot of it this past winter, and it was great. But, fall is my favorite season hands down, always has been. I love the weather, the crisp fall leaves all over the yard. The smell in the air. The gorgeous colors. I think orange is maybe one of the prettiest colors ever. Even if Auburn has it as one of theirs
Mmm, pumpkin pie-what time do we eat? I told S I wanted to put lots of pumpkins all over this year. Aldi usually has them lots cheaper than anyone else.
And I loved Gumby and Pokey as a kid. I had the toys, too. When S was little, we would watch it on tv every day. He loved it, too.
I hope your Algebra class is going well, and you make an A!
I didn't mean for rysmom to wait, but that MAYBE when H eventually comes out of MLC he will have regrets. And I suggested UNTIL then to enjoy life with her loved ones. Not to put her life on hold waiting at all. NO sirree bob. And I will still suggest her seeking help from L to find an alternative to filing for D IF there is one. The laws of her state regarding this are on the internet. As for the free will of her H's, I believe that during MLC, they will do things they might otherwise not, and ow will push them to do things against their better judgment (if they have any at the time), not discounting the fact that it's still his free will to do or not do it(whatever IT is). vc
No, 25, he is staying at home and going to the school that your old alma mater plays on 11-19. And their colors are red and blue. One from Alabama (red)One from that other one (blue).
Hey rysmom, what teams do you support?? Or are you like me, and would rather watch HGTV or a good movie? And pass through the living room every so often and yell YAY TEAM??!!? And pretend to know a touchdown from a homerun?? Joking, joking!! I do know the difference.
But, seriously, rysmom, have you been able to find out anything from L on any alternative? There has to be something for you. Could you look it up on the internet?
Just know, I support whatever you decide. After all, it's your life. And 25 is right, enjoy it.
Is your S enjoying school this year. It will pass by so fast, the senior year vc
I like the yankees. im not much of a spectator i like to participate. i only watch the religeous channels and tennis. i dont watch much tv or movies though , my son says i have ADD lol, cuz i cant sit still too long. ive been like that a long time. i do know most of the rules of the games though. I have not found out an alternative yet. i am still paralyzed with fear about making a legal move. i know i have to though. h text me yesterday and said he give me $ to buy the used car to go look at it and he will go do the deal for me, which is nice. Son and i went into NYC to look at a college and h said be careful today in his text to me. he took son out today and they went to gym and then over to his mothers for a cook out, ow was there son said, that still breaks my heart. when i think maybe h is waking up he does something to crush my hopes. i was feeling very down today. yesterday i was feeling so hopeful and happy about the future. i wish i always had peace of mind like that.
Hi, rysmom. Yeah, me too, I love to play basketball. We have a goal set up, and I told my H I was going to start playing again. I did though love to go to my S's basketball games and karate tournaments. I have to multi task, I can't just sit and watch tv. I have quite a collection of religious books. Love love love to read. History and religion. Have you ever read Francine Rivers' books? My favorite was And the Shofar Blew. And I am going to get A Lineage of Grace sometime.
Well, it's great your H is going to buy you a car. Could you ask him to go with you to pick it out? It would be some needed contact between you to. You have to do something if you want him to see you in a different, more positive light. I really understand your fear, it's your move to make when or if you feel it's time. I would really like to see you try to open contact with your H, so you will know if there's still something there somewhere. It may be the way to help your H "wake up" to see what could be. I don't think he did anything to crush your hopes, he is living with her the way you feel he should be living with you. If you want to have hope for the future, you have to help it along with all you've learned from DB. And you can have peace of mind when you are doing the right thing, whatever others are doing.
I hope you and your S had fun in NYC. I guess it's old hat to y'all to go there, though. Next time, tell me, so I can look at the Times Square Cam, and you can wave at me! My niece loves NYC and wants to go back.
We had fun in NYC my mother came with us also. We went to the memorial for John Lennon in Central Park-Strawberry Field. Ive been wanting to go since he was killed, so im glad i finally got there. We went by the Dakota where he lived and was shot too. I heard today that Paul McCartney got married again yesterday in England, what a coincidence that we went there yesterday. I took my son to look at Fordham U but they don't have a good program for his major. im getting worried where he will go.
No i have not read Frances Rivers books ill have to look on amazon for it. i have a basketball goal also, its laying on the side of my house, i was going to put it back up too. i use to love shooting baskets, might look funny to the neighbors, a 50 yr old shooting baskets, oh well you only live once who cares.
Yeah, who cares if the neighbors see you playing basketball? Maybe one or two of them will join you. It's good exercise.
Well, I am sure Fordham isn't the only college choice for your S. What did you say he was thinking of majoring in?
Are you working, now, rysmom? Or are you in school full time? Have you decided whether or not to engage your H in any conversation or activities, so you can get the line of communication opened with him? I know you are scared, but sometimes you just have to take a deep breath and jump into it. One day you may not have the chance. Maybe make a list of baby steps you can make. Then do them one at a time. I know you are standing for your M. I did, too. I prayed every day for God to touch my H's heart because he was determined to leave. In the meantime, I changed the way I spoke and acted to him. I stopped being so defensive when he critiqued the way I did things. I quit criticizing his way of doing things. I let him tell me why he now like something he didn't before. If he had grown a biker beard (his job wouldn't have let him, thank goodness), gotten tattoos or started listening to heavy metal,(I actually like some heavy metal) so what? It's still H under all the crazy new stuff. He saw these changes, and responded to them. I feel we are closer now than before his MLC. I hope we are completely done with it, and I think so. With you, your H has no way of ever even seeing any changes in you, so how can you show them to him if you rarely have contact with him?
Well, time to go fix dinner. Have a nice evening, rysmom
My son wants to major in film making. I hope there will be jobs for that though. i suggested he minor in that, and go into something medical. but he said he is not going to do something he doesnt like his whole life. i told him its a different world now you cant just think of what you like you have to go for where the jobs will be. would you rather live in poverty or have a job you kind of like, what would cause more pain. I think once i file for d, h is no longer going to talk to me. once he starts down a road like the one with ow, he continues down it , i know thats how he is. I know it was a mistake to tell him to leave 2 yrs ago, cuz ow really got her claws in him by moving in with him, i was just devastated at the time, that he went back to her, after being back home for 2 yrs.
"i told him its a different world now you cant just think of what you like you have to go for where the jobs will be. would you rather live in poverty or have a job you kind of like, what would cause more pain. "
That's a horrible thing to say. You really should have supported him in what he wants to do. You never know. He could actually be successful at it. Don't condemn him before he has even started. You will start to push him away when you say things like that.
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Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
