Did I mention that CJ's "sensitivity" is downright scary sometimes?
I've seriiously wondered more than once if he wasn't checking my posts regularly (he swears he hasn't been on the bb since Pam joined).
There's no possibility of that in this case as HE HAS NO COMPUTER and has not been near mine since yesterday.
So here's what he comes up with after dinner:
"How about on your break I call your brother (E, who does home improvements) and see about getting the hardwood floors in? ...I'll call around and see where to bring the drapes in for a cleaning ...we can paint the rest of the walls (discussions on that ensued).
He also suggested an over-night trip state-side. Funny thing (basic differences? HE thought it best to do the trip first and then come home to the painting and moving and all that.
I told him I'd much prefer the other way around! Get the work done and then take off as a reward.
Cj said he'd get a list together tomorow: supplies, timing, my bro (hope he's available). And some paint chips and floor samples....
REally, seriously, what is UP with this? I swear I haven't mentioned my break, nor the feelings I posted today.
You were holding in alot of pent up emotions. Even tho, you hadn't said anything, I would imagine some of it "leaked" out in body language ... maybe he was able to detect you seemed a little listless compared to the norm or he just picked up there was a little less bounce in your step. It have been just enough for him to notice a change was needed.
I'm sorry to hear you feel stuck in a rut / impasse. I get a sense you feel CJ is content with the way things are which makes you a tad resentful towards for CJ for feeling that way in addition to fact you don't feel you are at the level you want to be at.
If this is the case, attempt some steps towards bridging the gap between where his head is and yours in a way that won't get him defensive. Start by being interested in understanding where he is at. What if you use his toast from the other evening to maybe open the door. The next time you're enjoying a bottle of win, maybe you can approach CJ by telling you are interested in hearing in words what his version of bliss really is.
We picked up floor and paint samples yesterday. Booked my brother for the end of next week. He'll install the flooring...haven't picked one out just yet.
CJ called around to see about having our living room drapes cleaned. ...We thought about updating them. But with the red wall, the gold in them pops...plus they were custom made, good fabric.
CJ also cleared up a bunch of stuff in the basement. Including some of those beer cases! He brought me down to show me.
So today, despite the three feet of snow outside, I started cleaning out the kitchen cupboards. We discussed updating those, but may just go with a new counter top. Everything in our house is pretty much original 1967 brick bungalow.
We agree that the bathroom should be next....
Did I NOT just post my longing for CJ to show some initiative on the "bigger stuff"???
Shiny! You MUST be doing something right! What is it? Is it a change in your attitude towards him, your demeanor, acts of service for him, WHAT? There has got to be some clues that you can pick up on.
I have found that one of the best ways to get a project done (kinda by my h) is to start it...eventually h has to butt in and eventually he takes over, and it gets done!!! yippie!
Enjoy the effort that he is putting into your house/r. Appreciate him. I know...even if you don't feel like it... you must be the bigger person here and keep going. Don't let lulls set you back. (talking to myself as well)
same thing occurs around here...I piss an moan on a thread or two or heck talk to a friend on the phone complaining away and then poof! as if h had a fly on the wall something happens.
just breath, try to relax and enjoy the upswing and keep in mind during the next lag that the up is bound to come around again.
Well it's been a whirlwind of activity around here...lets see...we went to see my nephew's band play at a local lounge on Friday night...some of my students (who are in his youth group) were there.
There's a side story there and an issue I need advice on, but that;s another post.
Saturday we headed out and bought paint, supplies, stuff for dinner. CJ made breakfast first.
We made dinner together (double baked potatoes, mushrooms and lobster tails...those things cost a fortune here, but it WAS valentine's day).
Indeed CJ did buy me a little gift...some essential oil, a box with suggestion cards for "romantic ideas"...
Alas after dinner we felt brave enough to try our untried technique on a sample wall in the kitchen. It worked out really well...about 40% paint and 60% acrylic glaze...roll on sections and then scrumble and press in with a sponge. With two coats it looks a bit like suede or warm marble, that kind of thing.
It DID turn out a rather brighter gold than I'd anticipated, but with the art back up, the new wood floor and the drapes it will all pull together.
Best part is that we worked WELL together...minimal tension, lots of good humour.
And as much as I'd like to lay this on the doorstep of painting inside during the winter...I've been hacking my lungs out for two days so it seems I'm getting another bloody cold!!! ...Good thing I have to see my Doc. this week anyway.
Sorry I haven't been able to catch up at all...but I've got to work with this whilst it lasts!!
...I'll call around and see where to bring the drapes in for a cleaning 
...Good thing I have to see my Doc. this week anyway.