OH... and don't do it in writing. Or if you do, post it here before sending.
JMO.
M 43 X 38 T 13 W moves out of home 11/2010 Roller coaster from hell 2/2011-5/2012 I request divorce 5/2012 W moves home 6/2012 Good time 7/2012 - 1/2015 I leave 3/2016 process of divorce
You know what? I think that I would politely warn W that it is coming and blame the attorney.
I would NOT back off of any of the substance of the letter. But I would tell her that you had not wanted all of the dirty laundry put in the court record unless necessary and that you don't think that it was necessary at this point.
I would do this bc it is going to p!ss her off to no end LB. If she hasn't retained counsel yet, there is a good chance that she will now.
Maybe you can put her at ease somewhat by giving her a heads up.
BITS Denver
Thank you for this advice Denver. This will help me out a great deal. I don't plan on doing anything on writing.
Me:45 ExW:48 M:04/97 3 Bombs & 2 ReCons 1st BD 11/10 D Finalized 4/20 D-16 S-14 Going in one more round when you don't think you can. That's what makes all the difference in life.~Rocky Balboa
Me:45 ExW:48 M:04/97 3 Bombs & 2 ReCons 1st BD 11/10 D Finalized 4/20 D-16 S-14 Going in one more round when you don't think you can. That's what makes all the difference in life.~Rocky Balboa
Ask your attorney if your filing can be amended. It's either a "yes" or a "no"; there's no use crying over spilled milk.
Starsky
I will ask her. You know Starsky, you have been dropping in on my sitch from the beginning and you have set me me straight several times. I truly appreciate it.
You're very welcome, LITB. It's why we're all here.
Sorry for trying to scare you straight. You are at the very beginning of a very long process and no one goes through this without making a lot of mistakes so dont sweat it too much. You wont make or break your case with the initial filing. And feelings will get hurt in this process no matter what you do.
However, from this point forward you need to make sure your focus is on demonstration and documentation that you are a great dad and your kids will be best served by stability with you. Put your wife in the position where she has to prove that it is in the best interest of the kids to take them away from you and moved them out of state with her. You are being a good, honorable dad - you dont want to keep the kids away from their mom, but you cannot be forced to give up your kids or follow their mom around from state to state.
You are in a strong position. The status quo is the kids are with you. The burden of proof is on her to convince a judge that he should change this. Most judges dont like to change things that arent broke.
