All's well that ends . . . . . .?

[Lorie1964]

I will be praying for you tomorrow too!! (((HUGS)))

[AntoniaB]

I'm with ya, Punkin. All the way.

[warriorshadow]

((((HUGS)))) Punkin, I will be praying for you too. Just hang in
there and be the strong woman I have seen in you so long on these
boards.
You will be better than ok after all of this.

WS

[yellowrose]

Prayers are with you tomorrow. You will be fine!

Is your H in the military or retired military?

Y

[Andabelle]

Good luck.

[Goodfight]

Been praying for you Punkin.

[punkin]

Well, the worst is over. I am divorced. As predicted by my friend, the judge is taking everything in consideration regarding the settlement and will get back with the lawyers regarding.

XH, of course, went first. He said that all we did was fight and it was my way or no way. He came off as a totally arrogant b@$t@rd the whole time he was on the stand. He was openly hostile to my attorney. Refused to say Good morning to him. Finally said " Do we have to get into my personal life?" DUH. The judge responded "Yes, as a matter of fact, that is what this is about." He admitted to being involved with OW. Judge had to make him say the name. Lied and said they only became involved after we separated. Said I had tried to ruin his military career, etc. & so on.

When I took the stand, he literally turned his back to me. The whole time I was on the stand. As if I was too disgusting to look at.

He also admitted to having keys to get into the house ( which he had denied ) and came into the house yesterday while I was at work. Yep. Right up on the stand, he said that. I looked around today and found he had taken several items from the house that he listed as Marital. Things like Nature pics we had bought at Arts & Craft shows. He even listed the Fry Daddy for God's Sake.

His idea is to auction off everything we own and split the proceeds, if there are any. I had a house full of furniture when he came into my life. He had nothing. I worked for twenty years, 10 hours a day, but it was HIS money.

I' m just at a loss. I didn't think he could hurt me this way anymore, but on the other hand, expected as much. Now I have to wait and see what else the Judge wants to do. No decision today other than we are divorced.

[Goodfight]

Punkin,

I'm sooo sorry for what you had to go through, I'm dreading my day also even more now. I don't know how they can get on the stand and lie like they do!

I'm praying for you, and just remember when he is done with his OW and wants to come home some day because I really think he will want to, tell him too late.

Sending so many (((HUGS))). Hang in there, you are one tough cookie, a lot tougher than I am and you can do this...

[irishblessings]

Punkin - I have been thinking about you all day. I am sorry it was so painful / but it sounds as if he showed his true colors.
You have been so incredibly strong - stay the path. It will be alright and there is a time and a place coming to you that will bring you much peace and much deserved love and respect. - IB

[job]

Punkin,
Your xh is just like mine was. Now, here's the thing, if you have a house full of furniture prior to marrying him, you are not obligated to give him nothing for it, nor can he make you auction it off. You know, I really would like to know where the heck they get this idea for auctioning stuff off. You know what I told my lawyer? I'm not auctioning anything off becasue you do not get fair market value.

I have to laugh about about what he listed..fry daddy? I am not at all surprised that he came into your home this week. You better do another walk thru and check everything over good. Also, change the locks or he'll be back again. Any money or jewels missing? Check your kitchen cabinets, what about towels, etc.? I'm not being funny, I had a lot go missing including froze chicken and veggies that I had bought since he had left.

I'm sorry he's been such a putz, but it's all about them and what they feel that they are entitled too. Please do not allow him to talk or threaten you into auctioning anything off.