WOW Sandi, just WOW. They say WAW like to re-write history, I didn't think that included strangers on a message board.
First, Scared again I apologize.
1. Sandi - I asked you to respond to me in a thread I created, yet you chose to respond here then have the nerve to say "let the owner of this thread have it back"
2. Normally, I'd brush what you said off. But I'm not going to stand by while you make baseless accusations of me for all to see. The good thing about a forum like this is that people can see for themselves. I just spent 1/2 reading every single one of my posts. My interactions with you were limited and mostly positive. There was NO hounding, NO verbal abuse, Nothing of the sort. Some of the stuff you accuse me of just didn't happen.
It's funny, I''ve been way harsher to other people Heck I told Mr. Bond to F off. I was pretty hard on SBH with the 2x4s.
3. I don't tear down what you say, in fact I've gone out of my way to AGREE with your take on things on several occasions including in SL's thread. We basically had the same point of view...that is what's maddening.
4. I didn't give you a hard time when you started posting after your break. I did make a comment on what you said in this thread. This --- "I appreciate that. I'm tempted to say a whole lot about that situation but I'm going to try hard to take the higher ground." You implied you had more to say about me and implied there was a higher ground to take b/c I took the lower ground.
5. I'm really sorry if what I said hurt your feelings. But I still stand by it. As everyone says there are 3 sides to every story here. The one we get here, the spouse's and the truth. Because of that I take EVERYTHING anyone says with a skeptical eye. It's just the way I am. Call me a negative, half is glass empty kinda guy or just a jerk, I do not care. Remember I'm a lawyer before that a reporter. People give one side of events to me all the time, then I find out the truth later on. That is why I take everything even advice with a gain of salt. It's my problem, sorry I directed it at you in that thread. it was really directed at everyone even JTB who I hold in highest esteem. It goes for my advice to, take with a gain of salt or leave it all together.
6. Lastly, I really thought you had a thicker skin. Heck I've been called 10X worse on here than what I said to you. You are right, you have been here 4 years. I would hope you wouldn't let one comment from one guy, interfere with the help you give here. One of the common complaints is that people who succeed at DBing often just stop posting. I decided long ago, not to do that. I know about 1/100 of what the vets know and my style can be a bit more aggressive. But I really want people to be challenged in their views.
To everyone else. I'm sorry about this. (especially S2D and StillLearning whose threads got hijacked by this nonsense) I never thought my one comment would lead to so much strife. This is why we need a private message function. This is end of discussion for me.
Patience is bitter, but its fruit is sweet. --Jean Jacques Rousseau.
Harrier, you are out of line with your treatment of sandi2 from what I can see. Sandi2 has been a longtime respected member of this community and has helped countless people save their marriages with her compassion, wisdom and knowledge of DB techniques.
