I was feeling extremely impatient with the situation though. I just want a little security that we are formally working on the M.
This is your worst enemy right now Denver.
Search for security in your own courage.
Look back at the road you have just traveled.
How may people to do you know have done that?
How many people would endeavor to do that?
This is the new Denver and he is not insecure.
He is self aware and self reliant.
He is a man living his own truth.
Set your anticipation and expectation as aside
Have faith in yourself and this process you have begun.
Thank you Gritter... that was perfect advice for me today!
It is what I was trying to formulate in my mind, but couldn't quite come up with it...
BITS Denver
M 43 X 38 T 13 W moves out of home 11/2010 Roller coaster from hell 2/2011-5/2012 I request divorce 5/2012 W moves home 6/2012 Good time 7/2012 - 1/2015 I leave 3/2016 process of divorce
Hey sweetie. Take Gritter's advice. This is where the game is won or lost... right here. There are a lot of people who would do almost anything to be where you are. Do NOT let your impatience get the best of you. I struggled with this A LOT over the weekend. I thank God I didn't snap, but I felt like it quite a few times. Heck, I feel like it right now. But it's not worth it. Before doing anything, ask if its going to get you to your goal.
Hey sweetie. Take Gritter's advice. This is where the game is won or lost... right here. There are a lot of people who would do almost anything to be where you are. Do NOT let your impatience get the best of you. I struggled with this A LOT over the weekend. I thank God I didn't snap, but I felt like it quite a few times. Heck, I feel like it right now. But it's not worth it. Before doing anything, ask if its going to get you to your goal.
I'm praying for you!!
LIS
Yeah LIS... I see a similarity here with you and I right now. Thank god I didn't snap this past weekend too... More than once, I felt this strong feeling of, hmmm how do I describe it...
WANTING THINGS TO JUST BE SETTLED AND TO BE PERFECT...
LOL... it's during these moments that I just wanted to say to my W... 'um, so what's the deal? Are we a happily married couple again? '
Uggg... it is hard for me to be so damn patient! LOL...
Thanks LIS!
BITS Denver
M 43 X 38 T 13 W moves out of home 11/2010 Roller coaster from hell 2/2011-5/2012 I request divorce 5/2012 W moves home 6/2012 Good time 7/2012 - 1/2015 I leave 3/2016 process of divorce
Oh, you and me... we're DEFINITELY seeing eye to eye at the moment. Don't worry your pretty little head about that.
I know it's hard to be patient. But, in the end, do you have a choice? Not if you want your W back, you don't. So settle on down and be prepared to stay here in this for a little while. Part of it stinks because your ego will take a bruising a bit. It was easier when we were apart as there was less of an opportunity for him to hurt me. So I get where you are. I am a fixer too... so I just want to patch the whole thing up and call it fixed. But life doesn't work like that.
Hang in there, sweetie. We're definitely in this boat together at the moment. And there aren't a lot of people I trust to be stuck with - but you, I know you will save me from my stupidity and hopefully you will find some strength to be more patient. We just need to keep believing that we ARE going to get our spouses back.
Oh don't worry LIS... I'm going to continue to be patient! I haven't come this far through the sh!t to fall down now!
It's just hard...
BITS Denver
M 43 X 38 T 13 W moves out of home 11/2010 Roller coaster from hell 2/2011-5/2012 I request divorce 5/2012 W moves home 6/2012 Good time 7/2012 - 1/2015 I leave 3/2016 process of divorce
M 43 X 38 T 13 W moves out of home 11/2010 Roller coaster from hell 2/2011-5/2012 I request divorce 5/2012 W moves home 6/2012 Good time 7/2012 - 1/2015 I leave 3/2016 process of divorce
Denver and Lost, Both of you seem to be struggling a bit with accepting the nice gift you have been given. What gift? The gift of a chance at reconciliation!!!!
I want you to do me a favor. Next time you are with your spouse and the demons creep in, stop, take a deep breath and remember the rest of us out here. Remember FOBD who is now going on day 8 with no contact from W. Think about where you were and where you could be and then focus on the goal at hand. Take your spouse by the hand, just look them in the eyes and say nothing while you smile like a drunken fool. While you smile, continue to think about where you were, where you are now and where you might be if you hadn't tried so hard to get to where you are now. Then just enjoy the moment. So many of us out here are living through the two of you. And, some of us will never get to where you are now. Give that a thought next time you want to jump the gun or act out toward your spouse.
Just a little 2x4 from your old friend. Now, get out there and keep up the good work!!! The BITS are counting on you to lead the way!
BITS never walk alone!!
FOBD
Me: 39 W: 36 T: 15 yrs M: 9 yrs S: 09/10
So you can get on with your search, baby And I can get on with mine And maybe someday we will find, That it wasn't really wasted time...
