How to Save Your Marriage During an Affair

[Truegritter]

His wife respected his actions and became attracted to him.

Great for Steve. There are some M's here there are not going to turn out that way...

So what is success?

Coach I respect what you say here. My point was not directed at Steve and his personal situation.

The rest of my post speaks to that.

As LBS's we can set our sights on what we think some women find attractive...our spouse or anyone else.

A tactic expecting a result. What happens when it doesn't work? What are the chances it will?

I don't know and no one here knows so...we are back to faith or hope or whatever. My point is put that into a plan you can control.

YOU. Not your spouse or anyone else.

Until you know who you are and grab back your self respect and confidence, you will always live in fear that you are not attractive enough.

You place your self respect and validation in the hands of that person.

You live your life based on that idea of what her idea of you is...well then...

It's a lie.

...and you can lie to yourself about who you are and you will stumble,

believe those lies and you have failed.

Just the way I see things from what I have learned doesn't make it right...

Makes it my opinion.

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