Well 2nd interview with this job I really want went well. I am down to 1 of 3 candidates and next week I will have a Teleconference back to a corporate VP and with one of the engineers as the last step. I will find out next week some time if I get this job. I feel confident that I WILL get it.
I am back at my house this weekend with my kids and the W is out partying with her sister having a girls night. The longer this goes on, I can't help but think that with all of the A I read about on this forum that at some point, will my W start thinking about OM? It is really hard to tell if she considers herself 'single' therefore not considering it an actual A. She is out dancing and one of the first things that got my engines going about her when we first met was that this woman sure can shake her booty. I guess not thinking about this kind of stuff would be more about detaching, huh?
After strong consideration about the threat to my life that my FIL imposed upon me last night and talking to several police officers, I decided that there would be no real benefit by me filing a report, or a restraining order against him. I didn't mention it to my W today and I suppose will not be brought up again. The thing that I wonder about though is at some point, I will be in the same company as him and I won't exactly know how to react when that happens. I sure disliked his comment that if my W asked him for advice about us, he wouldn't tell her to walk away, he'd tell her to run away from me. I suppose the only way I can address the whole sitch as it played out last night is to ignore it ever happened and pray that it didn't exacerbate my sitch w/ my W in her mind.(if it even mattered in the first place) However, I can't help but think that the fact that my FIL escalated things w/ me in such an inflammatory way that my W wouldn't think how that would not effect our R in a negative way in the future.
All I can do at this point is keep the chin up and land that job and start back on the DB track again. I don't feel like I have really been doing too much lately with all of the other distractions going on. At least I know I haven't blow up at all and my R with my Ds is continuing to solidify more and more the more at peace I am with them, although I do find myself still being a bit harsh on them from time to time. However, the difference is night and day from the way it was just a few months ago.
M42 W38 D5D7 M8 Living as 'roomates' since 9-12-10 Moved out 1-7-11 FIL threatened to kill me 1-20-11
