These posts have a lot of good things in them. You are stronger than you realize. Take care of yourself and your children first of all and maybe your H will take notice of the strength he seems to be looking for in you. cat04 is exactly right.
If you want to go and will enjoy yourself, then go.
There is the key. Enjoy yourself, whatever you do. Enjoy your children. They are only young once.
Don't worry about the boundary. Today is a new day and you can do things different now. Because you know better than to say something without really thinking it out first.
GAL isn't all about "get out of the house." It is about taking care of yourself, pursuing hobbies that you used to do, or still do once in a while, or something you have always wanted to try.
Reading, sewing, meditation, anything that is for you and makes you happy. Because the more you nourish yourself, the happier you will become. And the better you will look to all people around you.
Whoa. Looks like I missed something here...wish I had read the responses before they were edited.
M9+ T 11+ Me42 H44 2 kids under 5 IlYBNILWY -3/10 A discovered late 8/10 H moved out early 9/10 - back two weeks later "Taking a Break" - H moves out 1/2/10
Don't worry about the edit. I saw it and it was nothing...
How are you this morning?
My H, always worked on Thanksgiving. Due to the nature of his career. I built a tradition with my S, that made the absence of his father a bit less noticible and it is something that we still do.
We watch the Macy's parade, and then we stuff ourselves full, get ready for Black Friday, and play video games. We have a blast and it is something we still do. This year, he wants to run a 5K (he is 16), but was afraid that I would be upset because it is a change to our routine. I told him to do it and it would just add to our day.
What has allowed this to work for us, was the fact that I didn't focus on his father not being there. Sure I always wished he was, but I understood that there was not much that could be done to change it.
My point is, make sure whatever you do, that you are building good and positive memories for you and the kids, and not focusing on what may be missing.
"Acceptance doesn't mean resignation. It means understanding that something is what it is and there's got to be a way through it."--Michael J. Fox
The Thanksgiving thing worked itself out. Friends asked us over and this seemed to be the best option for all involved. We are still going as a family but there is no pressure.
I don't know if you would be willing or even have the time to communicate with me outside of the forum - unable PM you. You just seem to really get it - the whole GAL thing and the motivation for doing it (because it's for you, not for spouse). I'd really appreciate knowing more about how you came to this space.
Thanks
M9+ T 11+ Me42 H44 2 kids under 5 IlYBNILWY -3/10 A discovered late 8/10 H moved out early 9/10 - back two weeks later "Taking a Break" - H moves out 1/2/10
Uh oh. Didn't know this was a no-no!!! Sorry!!! But out of curiosity, why is this not allowed??
M9+ T 11+ Me42 H44 2 kids under 5 IlYBNILWY -3/10 A discovered late 8/10 H moved out early 9/10 - back two weeks later "Taking a Break" - H moves out 1/2/10
I don't really know the answer why, I just know it is the policy of the place.
People, can, have been and will be banned for posting contact information. Including other web addresses.
Cat has her story I believe in the MLC forum. You can right click on her name above and view posts, then then click "Topics Created" to narrow down your search.
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK
