So stop staring at a pot of water and hoping it will boil sooner by you looking at it. The more energy you spend wondering what SHE is thinking/feeling the LESS you spend on GAL and looking attractive and being upbeat.
I love this ^^^^^^^
IAP that's great advice from 25.
I have a question for you. What are you doing for you?
Honestly guys I was doing all the GAL before the bomb, so I really havn't had to "add" anything. Been working out, still working out. Been going out with friends, still doing that. Been involved in church, still involved. Still working and taking care of the house and kids. Very busy, just very lonely.
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I too was in that boat of doing the GAL before the bomb, and that was part of the problem. Now is the tough part, right?
For you, the current GAL might be just not focusing so much on that pot of boiling water and focusing more energy on the kids and taking care of the house and not to let yourself feel too down or lonely
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Totally understand inp. I am very busy and still very lonely. Sometimes I wonder how I make it through this.
Amazing how many walking wounded are out there. I was one of them. I'm in a better place now. you will be too. Stay strong. Check out faithisbelieving's thread sometime for a guy on the div side of things who handled it with honor. And check out faithfulhusbands thread for a success story. And robx is in an unknown area (unknown to me) but he's got a lot of insight to offer.
you are in the right place. (Thanks Jack3. He's still around, right?)
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Even though this is not my thread I am thanking 25yearsmlc for his words of encouragement above. I went to lay down to go to bed tonight and felt about the loneliest I think I have ever felt in my life, and certainly since this whole thing started. I got up for a little bit, b/c I couldn't stand it anymore and I got back on here. This post really helped. Thanks!
Honestly guys I was doing all the GAL before the bomb, so I really havn't had to "add" anything. Been working out, still working out. Been going out with friends, still doing that. Been involved in church, still involved. Still working and taking care of the house and kids. Very busy, just very lonely.
This friend is just a time thing. As time goes by you will be in a better place. Just keep focusing on you and you will make it through.
^^^ YES! I forgot to mention that. The loneliness fades. Give it time.
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25 - "Check out faithisbelieving's thread sometime for a guy on the div side of things who handled it with honor. And check out faithfulhusbands "
What folders are these threads in?
And - any 180 ideas for a guy who is already GAL "busy"?
Me 53 XW 50 M 18 Years +2 S14 D19 Bomb 10-24-10 Served 1-27-11 Mediate 4-21-11 Civil D Final 6-2-11 No church anullment "A man is not finished when he is defeated, he is finished when he quits."
