Not sure if it's win-win, but with either outcome I know I'll be fine. It's just that I'd prefer one outcome over the other...
So what's the matter. Your heart tells you one thing and your brain another?
Not so much a conflict between heart/head, so much as just a ton of extraneous information, a ton of ambiguous information, just a lot of stuff to sift through. Knowing what is wheat, and what is chaff.
For example, I know I could get her to go to Retro. That would be leading, and she'd go, just to live up to her promise to do anything. But we all know there's a world of difference from her being focused on starting a new relationship with me and her doing what she thinks will keep me around.
Your heart tells you one thing and your brain another?
Had a wise friend tell me (my W actually) this a few months back: Your heart doesn't have a brain. Don't make decisions with your heart (Feelings, emotions, etc)
M39 W41 Two children WAW bomb dropped 11/7/09 Piecing Aug 10 - Nov 10 No longer piecing...Nov 10 Separation Jan 11 EA ends again Feb 11 Piecing attempt #2, Mar 11
For example, I know I could get her to go to Retro. That would be leading, and she'd go, just to live up to her promise to do anything. But we all know there's a world of difference from her being focused on starting a new relationship with me and her doing what she thinks will keep me around.
The old mind reading for the spouse trick, second time I fell for it this month.
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
Your heart tells you one thing and your brain another?
Had a wise friend tell me (my W actually) this a few months back: Your heart doesn't have a brain. Don't make decisions with your heart (Feelings, emotions, etc)
Your heart tells you one thing and your brain another?
Had a wise friend tell me (my W actually) this a few months back: Your heart doesn't have a brain. Don't make decisions with your heart (Feelings, emotions, etc)
I don't think you can ignore your heart and feelings though. Otherwise it's a no brainer for me to stay. Better finances, more access/time with my daughters, and companionship with my wife.
For example, I know I could get her to go to Retro. That would be leading, and she'd go, just to live up to her promise to do anything. But we all know there's a world of difference from her being focused on starting a new relationship with me and her doing what she thinks will keep me around.
The old mind reading for the spouse trick, second time I fell for it this month.
Guilty as charged. So if she goes, be happy she's going? Go with a smile?
What's your goal? How will get there? What do you need to do?
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
Goal: reconcile with W How: Become attractive to her
Either win her over with my sheer sex appeal and charm, or make her feel that she's lost me.
And I know that this question is mindreading at its worst, but what if I dump her, and though she might have been all in as best as she could, she gives up on us because I've walked?
